Me and mum don't see eye to eye on a lot of things and sometimes our relationship can be strained to say the least.
A couple of weeks ago my "step father" called to say he had been to see my grandmother and she wanted to see my 8yo DD again. Fair enough. My gran had quite clearly been feeling sorry for herself. (She has weeks were everyone is against her and just waiting for her to die and then she is fine again, she has been like this for years now so we all tend to just nod and agree we are bad kids/grandkids and ignore, which is a stragety developed over time)
I said I'd take my dd over today and spend some time over there. My gran can't get out much and as I live 2 hours away (3bus rides) I thought I'd take my DD and we'd make a day of it.
On tues I did a similar (not quite as long a trip) trip to see my sil and DB who have just had twins. I've realised that doing this is just too much for me! I'm 33 weeks pg and during this weather 3 buses is probably not the smartest move!
I text my mum this morning (I didn't have any credit on my phone until this morning) to let her know that I wouldn't be able to make it.
However, I did say that I was very sorry and if she wanted to come over (she drives) and take my DD over, she was more than welcome to.
She text me back saying "done" and then called an hour later with a string of nasty and hurtful comments (along the lines of, you shouldn't of even got pg if you can't cope with the pregnancy! And, if you think I am going to have anything to do with the new brat you're creating, you have another thing coming) I explained my postion again and hung up, asking her to call back when she can be civil!
Have I really stepped over the mark here? I've offered an alternative and I'm failing to see what else I could have done here? I don't want to put my health or the health of my unborn child at risk!
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ithastobeNAICEham · 26/07/2012 16:19
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