Like they state an opinion one week, it comes up again a few weeks later and you take their stance but they have obviously forgotten and take the opposite viewpoint.
You try to make them laugh and they purposefully don't.
You are chatting and they are taking the opposing, often po faced viewpoint to everything you say.
No matter how hard you try to explain yourself and what you meant about something they will never seem to understand. They seem to want to see you in a bad light.
They tell you whatever opinions or concerns you have about something are because you are a mean selfish spiteful person and the argument then becomes about defending yourself from that instead of addressing your concerns or thoughts about something.
When you tell them something you have done or would like to do they start making stuff up about your motives and no matter how hard you try to explain they just keep going down that road making up more things that make you look bad.
This is the best way I can explain my relationship with my ex and to this day he tells me that he "just likes debate", "just wants logical explanations for my actions or thoughts".
Sorry if it's wooly but I don't actually understand this myself and why it used to make me feel like I was going bat sh*t crazy. Any thoughts?
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What is it when your DP/H disagrees with EVERYTHING you say?
akaemmafrost · 11/07/2012 15:04
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