Sorry, might be long..
I've been with 'D'P for 9 months and have put up with him trying to cheat on me, signing up to vile dating sites, excessive drinking, going awol for a week and basically being a complete dick to me. I've let him manipulate me into thinking he will change, begging me to give him more chances and i've gone back time and time again.
The difficulty is that I work for him from home organising various work trips that I go along with him to. I am very people orientated and drum up a lot of business for him. He is good at what he does but isn't great with people so we work well as a team. I have thought about leaving him before but I am always in the middle of organising an event and think, when this is over i'll break up with him but then he sucks me back in by being great - It's frustrating as I know if he was consistent we would make a brilliant team in all respects.
Last night he was absolutely vile towards me in front of my 10 year old, he'd had a bad day and really lashed out at me verbally :( I walked home, texted him stupidly saying I would always be there for him etc... got no reply after a couple of hours, so told him I was deleting his number so that I could not contact him and hope he didn't drown in his own self pity :(
I deleted his number etc. as I always back down and text him. The problem is we have to be at the airport wednesday night for another event I have organised, I have his passport, details of the venues and am halfway through the advertising campaign which has a deadline for tommorow at 2pm. He knows all this and hasn't contacted me until just now with a brief text asking if I had done the advert - no apology or anything. I don't know whether to text back or just switch my phone off.
I also always pay for everything on my credit card as he can't get credit and he gives me the cash eventually but it worries me every time, so I asked him for the balance last night and he kicked off about that too. He pays me for helping him out - it's pretty much a full time job and i'm at his beck and call but I always have to ask several times for any pay and he gets stroppy if I talk about getting a 'real' job as he 'needs' me.
So, what do I do??? I feel strong enough to get rid of him this time. The flights and accommodation are booked and I am so tempted to just go on my own and bloody enjoy a break leaving him to sort himself out for once but i'm a bit scared tbh!!
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inlovewithanarse · 09/07/2012 22:03
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