Been apart for two years, and in the past week or so I'm getting an urge to text him and tell him how much I hate him!

[fortyeighthourdancemarathon]

Why now after 2 years? Only a month ago I was telling people how I'm now happy to be single, but I'm getting intrusive thoughts about telling him I really hate him, and I always will. But there's no point, we've still got ds and have to try and be civil for his sake. I just want to forget what happened, but I still feel pretty pissed off about it all, and keep thinking my life is not what I signed up for etc. Any advice please?

[SundaeGirl]

Embrace it! But don't text.

Your feelings of anger are possibly overdue. Use them for something positive. He said you were lazy? Take up running. He said you were thick? Get a phd. Fucking show him and by the time you're done achieving you'll have forgotten him again.

[Bongobaby]

your only human to still have these thoughts. was the split good/bad?

[fortyeighthourdancemarathon]

I think you're right SundaeGirl, I have been angry, but possibly not enough! I just find it hard to be angry and also get on with life, so I may have repressed that. Great idea about channelling the anger. Am starting uni in sept, so I have used the time to good effect, but there is a lot of house stuff I could be doing that could be helped by the addition of a good dose of angry energy!
Bongobaby, the split was ok, we both wanted it. However just before the split he humiliated me and treated me like shit on a weekend away with friends, and I can never forigive him for that, and still feel very angry about it. He is now seeing someone else, which I don't mind, but I feel pretty angry that he has the time to start a new relationship, and is now benefiting from having another salary in the pot, so to speak. I was pretty bitter about my own financial situation for quite a while to be honest, but I know I'm not doing too badly now.
Thanks for your replies

[ImperialBlether]

I wouldn't worry about the other woman. One day he'll be equally vile to her and if she's got anything about her she'll tell him where to go.

I've felt like this about my ex husband and got round it by writing emails which I saved as drafts. In them I felt free to pull apart all of his inadequacies. Just don't be tempted to send them, especially if you've had a few drinks!

One way around that is to open a new Hotmail account and save your drafts without his name in the To: box.

[fortyeighthourdancemarathon]

Hi Imperial, I'm not worried about the other woman, have spoken to her on the phone and she seems nice enough, my only interest in her is that she treats ds well, which she seems to and he likes her . It's more that I resent him for being able to form a new relationship, and having the freedom and spare time to pursue it!To be fair to her she was not the other woman, they only met about a year after we split. Good idea about the draft emails, I think I will have to try it, did you find it really helped?