Been with dh 12 years (8 married). 2 small dcs (2 and 4). We've had a few external pressures; moved to a new country, I gave up work (had a dull but very well paid job, long hours), DH took on demanding new job, (relatively minor) money worries etc., little DC is not a sleeper etc. Anyway, the last 4 years have been very rocky and we've rowed a lot.
DH has been verbally abusive in the past (name calling, shouting, dismissing what i have to say as irrational/overly emotional/stupid) although has got better. I really thought we had turned a corner until yesterday when we had a blazing row about where we would live next.
Without giving too much away (don't want to be outed), dh had indicated on our move overseas that we would return to UK to bring up dcs. However, various mutual friends told me that dh got very drunk last week and was speaking to someone about how much he hates the UK and doesn't want to go back there. Rather than dealing with it sensibly and calmly i made an issue of it (stupid i know but it really upset me). Had a horrible row, with the children in the next room, which ended with him saying that "[he] couldn't stand me any longer". I asked him if he really meant that, partic. in front of the children (who had come out) and he repeated it several times. Stupid question, but how bad is that? Oh yes, we haven't had sex since October either.. : (. I really really don't want to get divorced : (
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i can't stand you any longer
sleepingischeating · 09/07/2012 12:46
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