I am about to break up with my bf basicly he's nit a nice person, no actual physical violence but threats shouting name calling irresponsability dishonesty criminal behaviour and the such like.
We have not been togather long enough for him to have any rights in relation to my home or money he has no PR for our b fed less than 4 month old he has a much older child that he is unable to see without supervision from his parents but I do not know why but know no courts have been involved. I have extream problems expressing due to previous surgery on breasts. He is unable to care for baby without help due to a lack of understanding of basic safety and age appropreate ability to the point of actual dangerious things and struggles to cope with him when I am in the room and he has him on lap for any longer than ten mins he can't understand about not priortising his needs over the babys and gets angery/stressed about what most mums would concider to be half hearted baby cries.
He is under them impression he can have baby every weekend because he has rights. I know the legal suituation but am wanting thoughts on the moral perspective. He has no inderpendant housing and won't give me info regarding his housing suituation he has no income not even benefit(long sanction due to violent behaviour in dhss office) will be paying no maintainance and I am not comfortable with how his parents behave around his other child so would be unwilling to agree to the same suituation as happens with that child.
What would you do?
How would you attempt to enable the babies right to have a relationship without risk and from a purely practicle stance would I be expected to fund his contact in anyway or provide him with baby equipment to assist him as I am unwilling to have him in my my house without a third party (not his mum but his dad perhaps)just incase my grammar is bad all him's refer to stbxbf
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What would you do
Socknickingpixie · 28/06/2012 12:39
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