Dh and I are separating. We have been married nearly 13 years, two dc aged 11 and 9. It's been crap for ages and ages (no affection, no sex, he's controlling and makes me feel guilty about everything, he's a lot older than me) but he's a good dad.
I spent years telling him I wanted out, but he did everything he could to make me stay. Finally I said something to the kids (he'd been adamant they weren't being affected, of course they were). They've taken it well, seem more relaxed actually, and he's accepted we are separating.
We had what looked like a great buyer for our house and pushed ahead with purchasing smaller places each. The house I want to buy is lovely and I could see myself being really happy there. Then our buyers pulled out, about ten days before we were due to exchange. They'd misled us and really messed us around.
Now the house is on the market but there is little interest. Dh and I have been living under the same roof, sleeping in the same bed, for nearly four months. It's actually not that different to how it was before, except he talks to me a bit less and goes out more.
I can't stand it much longer. I want so much to be free and move on with my life. I am so depressed and feel so desperate. I'm starting to hate him. I'm also terrified I won't be able to buy the house I want - I've already paid out for solicitor etc but that's not the main problem. There is hardly anything suitable for us in the area that's within our budget. I will really struggle to find anything else.
This could drag on for months and I feel I have nothing to look forward to. I'm so low I find myself doubting whether I have the strength to follow it all through, though dh has drained the life out of me for years. I look in the mirror and I look so old and miserable. I can't remember the last time I felt happy.
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