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Every time you post I think, "Oh here's that lovely woman with the horrible ex, hope she's all right". And you are, you have made huge strides, well done.

chat to us if you get fed up. there is always someone around!

well done, ignore is the way forward.

Stay Strong Starting

that you still cry once a week! Don't be lonely, we all want to talk to you!

Hey how's it all going?

Glad to hear you're still standing firm - blimey he doesn't give up easily does he?!!!

Hope things are still ok Starting and you have some nice things planned for Christmas and the New Year.

starting I was thinking of you today and wanted to know how you were getting on now.

hope you have a lovely Christmas. Always here if you want a chat.

Merry xmas. Hope you are ok x

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to wish you all a Happy New Year! Thank you for checking up on me!

Had an ok Xmas and New Year- spent them with my sailing friend although she is having a bad time with her on/off BF so i was a shoulder to cry on for her!

Work is going OK.... feels like all i am doing at the moment......

Had a bad few days this weekend, think its just the new year, back at work, loneliness etc etc but im sure ill feel better next week. Had a massive cry today so feeling a bit blue but ok

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

starting didn't you go Down under for Christmas .

Sorry to hear you're still having days of feeling pissed off but do you feel you're getting stronger each week?

2013 will be a better year, keep at it , think of sailing in a beautiful part of the world with friends who love and value you.

Stick with it and chose a wonderful place to holiday at, the world is waiting for you to pick a spot!!! Go for it.

Hi Sugar,

No not this year- maybe next!

Thank you for the support, i need it this weekend.........yes i do feel stronger by the week, but i still have dips every now and again ( i think some of it is hormonal too!)

I'm having trouble planning for the future atm, im in a bit of a treadmill with work and the crap wet weather isnt helping..... its seems like an effort to go out!

Just ignore me im feeling sorry for myself tonight!

xxx

I definitely suffer with hormones, I spend two weeks feeli g on top of the world, then two weeks feeling sad :-(

I've had a few tears these past few days. I'm working hard too to meet a deadline.

It's silly things that set me off, like a programme about the Isle of Skye, on earlier today, which is where we went on holiday and were planning to take DD one day.

But we are both doing really well and we should both be happy with how far we have come .

Hi Skye,

I didnt used to suffer with PMT- but i think my age must be sneaking up on me

Work is ok but like you i have deadlines to meet at the moment which would be fine normally, but at the moment its all seems too much!

Im exactly like you but for me its music, i hear certain songs and before i know it i have tears streaming down my face.

Id hoped i would have been past all of this by now......... but it seems i still have some work to do.

xxx

Starting good to hear from you again.

Glad you had an ok christmas and new year.

Start planning for Down under holiday now it will give you something to aim for.

Oh god, music!!

The other night I heard How Do I Live Without You by Lianne Rimes on a car radio and I was in pieces, the words just said it all!

And when my friend ( a beautician) was waxing my eyebrows she out her iPod in and Ten Million Bicycles by Katie Melua came on... XH bought that for me, the lyrics saying , like the fact that I will love you til I die. She had to turn it off!

God. How depressing!!!

I have always suffered from PMT though and used to tell XH when I was due so that he had warning of any mood swings. Trouble is, if I was moody so was he! I said to him once, I've got PMT, what's your excuse?!

Onwards and upwards!!!! We are a Twunt free zone now!

Hi starting - good to hear from you! I'm glad Christmas & NY ok & no more hassle from ex. 2013 will be much happier for you I'm sure of it!

Hi,

Back again........

Where - I WILL book an exciting holiday this year i promise......

Skye - Music is a killer gets me everytime!

Midwide - Still getting hassle from ex now and again but less and less... or i am more able to brush it off- not sure which actually!

You ladies are so very kind

Has he not given up YET?!!!

Hello there, starting!

Don't worry, you're just a member of the very big pissed-off post-Christmas club. Everyone I know is in it.

hi starting I am glad you are posting again.

So, new year, new start! Lets get you some fun, exciting things to do. Listen to new music! What style do you like, or what bands do you like and we can try to find some similar styles but not related to ex?

Everyone I know has been fed up. Wet weather is rubbish and trying to get anything done is just a bit harder than usual.

How is the house coming on? Maybe paint a room in a bright colour to cheer you up. Fresh flowers always make me feel good, doesnt have to be expensive, but the colours are nice. And going to my hairdressers, I love it. Even if it is just for a cut or blowdry.

Lets change things up for you!

You are doing really well.

Oh and re PMT my friend swears by Evening Primrose oil tablets.

hey starting. i have been on here a LOT but have had various name changes recently. Just wanted to let you know I am still rooting for you

Hi Everyone

Long-time no post! Well.... tonight is the year anniversary of my EXP( affectionately known as arsewipe ) walking out on me after 15years with no warning to shack up with OW.

Initially, I was devastated, I was bad, really bad, suicidal at times- I wasn’t working, very little contact with family, no friends- he was my life....

I shared this all with you lovely ladies - from the initial shock of that first night, to the torture that he put me through for the following months........ I couldn’t have got through it without your advice and support- it was priceless….. there was always someone there to answer me in the small hours and to hold my hand when I felt alone.

The last year has been the toughest of my life, It really has, but I have come through it, I’m back at work and at the top of my game again salary/career wise, I have made new friends, reconnected with my family, started to rekindle MY interests again, about halfway finishing MY house. Hell, I’ve even had a shag (which was fun!) and some male attention….. although I’m definitely not looking for a relationship for a while yet…… !

I’m not completely out of the woods………. I still have a cry over him every so often, I still become overwhelmed with being alone sometimes, I do still think about the good times I spent with EXP and yearn for that again, but generally things are really good for me…….

Just wanted to post an update and to thank all of you who have been so wonderfully kind and supportive over this last year, I would never have made it without you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

What a great update Starting.

I hope you have a much better year this year and onwards. And some more fun shags as well.