i want to escape..if thats the right word..from an extemley one sided and stale realtionship. i feel such a fool. my husband is constantly taking advantage of me and takes no responsibility.. where our children.. finances/bills..our life choices.. are concerened. i have been married to my husband for 8 years. we have 3 children together and another on the way. my husband also has a child from a previous relationship too. Even though we live together he doesnt see any of his children, he works full time 6am till 6pm..and he chooses to find other things to do everyweeknd instead of spending time with them and myself. we are in horrendious debt 15,000..and cannot seem to get away from it. as i deal with all the bills finances.. i struggle to find money left over for anything...it is such a huge strain on my shoulders as he refuses to deal with any of it.
My husband has a terrible relationship with his ex partener which is really taking its tole on me and im sure us all...heated arguments..texts calls etc etc late into the night at times.
He has done some extremley unquestionable things to me in the past that i cannot seem to forgive him for either... and ruined due to his jelousy many a lovely evening or weekend away.
no matter how many chances/times and go's we have to make this work..it just ends up me trying..arranging evenings out..time together..he does absoutley nothing..
i know his heart hasnt been in it for many years, it cant be..if it was it would be different.. and he just dosent want to atmit it..but i wanted to try and make it work. i love him and for our kids.. but ive had enough.
what do i do and where do i start?? 3 children.. expecting another.. no job :( i feel so trapped.
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Anxious about current state of relationship, and confused what to do about it.
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maryjane29 · 12/05/2012 15:57
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