My Dad died, pretty suddenly, 3 1/2 years ago (on the morning of my wedding, but that's another story) .
11 weeks after he died, Mum started seeing another man. She said they were just friends but it was obvious they weren't. Sis & I were grief stricken and basically buried our heads in the sand as we couldn't deal with it. We decided to say something and just before we did, Mum had a heart attack - so obviously we didn't say anything to her.
Anyway, it fizzled out and she went out with a few different men. She phoned me about 6 months after Dad had died to tell me she had got engaged to someone we had never met, never heard about etc - I was 4 months pregnant and NOT happy with her. She had met him on the internet and was planning to buy a house for them to live in, he was going to give up work and sell his car and use hers - obviously a conman! We had it out with her and she asked some questions and they split up.
ANYWAY, she then started seeing "D", supposedly a quiet man whose company she enjoyed hugely. They have been together now for about 2 years, me & sis have never met him - I can't deal with it - but she has now said she is thinking of marrying him. He is childless and well off, so I don't think he's after her money. She said they have agreed that she will leave her share of any house they buy and her shares an stuff to my sister & I.
I think that in the early days, she was frightened of being left on her own and grabbed the first man who gave her attention, but it was so hard for me to deal with.
If she had just met D, I (hope) I would be happy for her, but with all the history, I still feel so
I am a complete Daddy's Girl and miss him dreadfully, even now 3 1/2 years on. I dream about him weekly and if I think about him, my chest feels really tight. I cannot talk about him without bursting into tears! DH thinks I need counselling, but I feel a bit silly as it was 3 1/2 years ago!
Sorry to witter on. I'm going to make a big effort to meet him and be civil - I think that now it's my problem, not hers if that makes sense.
Don't really know what I want to hear from you lot, but I feel better getting it off my chest
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My Mum is thinking of re-marrying (sorry long)
MamaG · 13/02/2006 13:15
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