Those of you who ever felt humiliated by your parents when you were a child...

[mszebra]

what did they do? Give me an example?

[myermay]

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[crazydazy]

or "wait until I get you home" the humilation plus the intrepidation of getting a hiding when I got home.

[GeorgieVickyLou]

THe 'Stop Showing off' thing defiantly myermay with you on that

[crazydazy]

Awwww I encourage my kids to show off - but I can remember my mum saying that too.

[GeorgieVickyLou]

Or perhaps i was just a big show off..

When she didn't close the door properly on the Van and i leant against it and rolled out into the road out side school that was very humilating - but wouldn't happen now what with car seats and all

[GeorgieVickyLou]

Mum kept driving and didn't notice straight away i had gone!

[mszebra]

Something we do I didn't feel comfy about & then I read on another thread that people felt it was "abuse" -- well, I didn't think we were doing right.
Made me wonder what else we're doing wrong.... .
Anyway, am genuinely curious, too.

[hercules]

well, what is it?

[chjlly]

On my birthday once we went out for a meal & my dad got a helium balloon from the Restaurant and was going to follow me into work with it
Luckily it flew out of the car when he opened the boot

[Blandmum]

onthe day i got my a l3vel results, my mothervwas outside our house, recieving the congratulations of her friends. My a level grades werevsuch that i got into oxford. when i arrived, my mother said, 'we are glad to get the results, as she has been very difficult to livevwith'

bitch! she ruined my day. she seemed to make a habit of things like that.

[littlemissbossy]

I can remember many, many embarrassing moments, for instance, my mother singing loudly from the kichen - Barry Manilow or Barbara Streisand - when my friends were round - BTW she can't sing!
I don't really remember any particularly humiliating things though... humiliating is very different to embarrassing IMO

[mszebra]

We've locked DS1 (age4+) out of the house on occasion... how awful is that?
I don't think we'd do it again... usually did it when DS1 was in a mega-tantrum (violent or destructive).
The alternative was to restrain him which didn't seem a lot better, tbh.
DH has stood outside with DD, too, when she wouldn't stop screaming (drama queen... age2+).

But am still mostly asking because I wondered about the more subtle "humiliation"/wrong things we do/try as parents, etc.

[hercules]

No one is a perfect parent and I doubt many hear would claim not to have done things they regret.

[GeorgieVickyLou]

Well if he is safe (and not in his pants in -5oC temp)that isn't much different to time out is it?

[GeorgieVickyLou]

My Mum chased my Brother round the block with a stick when he was about 8 one of the neighbours had to restrain her!

[SHHHH]

loads of things and in fact they my parents are no different now. I remember when I got my very 1st af...I remember my mum telling my nan, auntie,neighbour in fact anyone who would listen all about it.. .
Thats something I will NEVER do with my dd. In fact its one of many things I wouldn't copy from my mum. Tact and privacy is not her strongest points.

[mummytosteven]

my mum when I got my first AF was a bit concerned it was brown blood (yes, I know, TMI, sorry) and absolutely mortified me by asking the pharmacist in boots if this was normal (when I was with her!)

[moondog]

SHHHH and mts,those are just awful.
How appallingly insensitive!

[mummytosteven]

my mum was just clueless! I can sort of laugh about it now

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

Hmm, well, my mum used to answer on my behalf when i was a child. Well, in fact she still actually does it now - it became humiliating as i got older tbh. (Bad combination of her bad hearing and my softly speeking). Now i just interrupt her, but when i was a gawky child/teen it was just the worst.

My dad once, when i was 15 mins late coming home one night (I was 15 or 16) a boy had taken the effort to walk me all the way down from the bus stop and my dad marched out when he saw me coming down the road and grabbed me by the arm without so much as a bye or leave to this poor lad and frogmarched me in doors. That was pretty humiliating, and unnecessary.

My Mum accused one of my brothers (and in fact the 'wrong' one) of using the bathroom as a 'wanking post' in front of all his and our other brothers mates once. He found that pretty humiliating.

Nothing serious though.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

speeking????? I mean speaking

Sorry - just read your posts GVL and am ROFLMAO!

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

My mum washed my middle brother with a brillo pad once because he refused to wash for a week.