Ok for those who dont know my back story.
I have a DS who is autistic as well as other neurological/physical issues. He has severely challenging behaviours due to this.
In June last year I broke up with my long term partner (not DSs dad) we were on and off a bit till dec last year when it was definately over (it was over before that but we got back together for like a week in which time he was already cheating)
Anyway a month ago I met someone. We've been dating a bit. Taking things pretty slow, he has not met DS and I didn't want him to until something like marriage was possibly on the cards (maybe not but certainly very very serious, I don't want to confuse DS)
Anyway today I got a bit upset about stuff involving DS and had a bit of a whinge to him. Then said something along the lines of putting him off. He asked what I meant and I said all the stuff with DS as it is very challenging and very much a part of my life, a lot of people couldn't cope with that.
Anyway he said he hasn't thought about it. At all. I've been honest about DS from the start. He has seemed pretty keen but if he hasn't even thought about DS....I dunno. I kind of think that if you date someone with a kid in view to it becoming serious (which he has said often) you consider whether that is something you want in the future. I don't want to waste my time on someone who wouldn't ever be able to cope with it all (hence being so honest about it all)
I just want to tell him to go away. But in every other way he seems so lovely. Willing to take things slow, but texts loads. Am I being silly?
DS comes first to me and I could be being over cautious. But then I could be making perfect sense. My heads a mess right now.
That probably didn't even make any sense to anyone. Sorry.
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hanaka88 · 20/03/2012 20:17
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