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Why men like stockings and suspenders?

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MsBakingCakes Sun 11-Mar-12 23:39:25

Had a chat with DP last night and he cannot explain why men like women in stockings and suspenders. I do not know the answer so I thought that here in mumsnet someone would come and helps us discover why.

He is not sure either but thinks it is sexy but he does not know why.

Anyone out there to help us please?

sydlexic Sun 31-Mar-13 22:43:23

DH says it is about contrast, they look all prim and proper Miss Jones with the skirt down and sexy and accessible with skirt up. He likes them because he knows I put them on for him, to be fair I don't wear them any other time. He also said they look a bit strappy and bondage like.

He asked is this a trick question, am I going to be on trouble again.

slutorvictim Sun 31-Mar-13 22:33:04

I just asked DP, he said "dunno" lol

I think they look nice - maybe its that? maybe its the accesibility with the nicely shaped legs?

I personlly look ridiculous in them (think muffin top but wiht legs grin)

I've worn stockings since I was about 18. Don't like tights because they make me feel too warm. Any added sexual thing is just a bonus, but I don't wear them for that, I wear them for my comfort.

Dahlen Sun 31-Mar-13 20:47:45

I always wear holdups. I cannot abide the feel of tights, where the gusset always ends up somewhere around your knees and the waistband up by your bra. hmm Ugh!

Stockings and suspenders, however, are a huge faff, and I will only wear them if I need to wear hosiery that I cannot get in a hold-up version.

This is all about personal choice for me based on how things feel, but I am amazed at how men seem to think my personal choice in hosiery is about them rather than me (well not them, specifically, more the male of the species IYSWIM).

coxspippin Sun 31-Mar-13 18:32:55

do you remember those experiments with ducklings and imprinting?
well perhaps small boys imprint on their mothers' legs (and tights/ stockings). i know that's a daft answer!

Midwife99 Sat 30-Mar-13 11:35:43

I don't want to over think it. I look & feel sexy in them in the same way my DH does in a nice pair of tight trunks with that lovely trail of tummy hair poking out! blush

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 11:25:37

This is true midnight but whenever such thoughts are articulated the usual reaction from most men is to think 'man hating feminist'. Rather than accusing all men of treating women as sex objects or pontificating that the reason men like stockings or heels or women shaving their eyebrows off and then drawing them back on so they look permanently surprised, is due to patriachial norms, or pornography,or whatever. I really think women who espouse such views are doing women a disservice, feminism has a long way still to go and such views damage women's cause. They're just stockings, they look nice, that is all.

MidnightMasquerader Sat 30-Mar-13 03:09:33

The annoying thing is though, that some people like to think.

And every now and then they'll come up with explanations that aren't to the satisfaction of everyone... smile

No-one's forcing anyone to agree with them, as far as I can see.

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:04:39

Maybe it just doesn't need thinking about too much, maybe someone might see a picture in a woman's magazine of a woman wearing stockings, in an article written by a woman, the editor is a woman, the readers are women. But of course it's all about women being portrayed as sex objects and men are to blame because of the patriarchal society.....<rolls eyes>

MidnightMasquerader Sat 30-Mar-13 02:58:04

Maybe it's not because of patriarchal norms, or pornography, or a sign women are 'up for it' , maybe they just look nice?

Yeah, maybe. If you don't want to think about it too much... <shrugs>

The OP asked a question, and people gave their thoughts on it.

Tortington Sat 30-Mar-13 02:50:24

lets face it - along with lines on the back of stockings - its like road map to the vagina

the promise of whats underneath the skirt - or what's higher up.

the issue is not the stocking, but the meaning of sexyness.

Its not right to state that preening and pruning are the domain of women alone

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:46:01

Maybe it's not because of patriarchal norms, or pornography, or a sign women are 'up for it' , maybe they just look nice?

MidnightMasquerader Sat 30-Mar-13 02:39:44

Sorry - what sort of response were you hoping for then?

I'm struggling to see your analogy / point...

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:32:31

Thanks midnight, for that rather predictable reply.

MidnightMasquerader Sat 30-Mar-13 02:31:04

Meh, I think suspenders are sexy.

It is possible to be able to look at something from an analytical viewpoint and critique it and indulge in it. wink

MidnightMasquerader Sat 30-Mar-13 02:28:39

Just to add, I know pornography dates back way before the 40s/50s, but it wasn't for public consumption. You had to seek it out and most people wouldn't have had access to it.

Pin-up girls were suddenly there for everyone to see and, um, appreciate.

Tortington Sat 30-Mar-13 02:28:20

oh and i'm fed up of everything meaning that women are mens sex slaves. ffs.

Tortington Sat 30-Mar-13 02:27:25

i like a good hold up - as good as suspenders without the bother

i think they are sexy.

MidnightMasquerader Sat 30-Mar-13 02:25:43

Verbalpunchbag - there are no matriarchal norms, which is why that answer would make no sense.

MidnightMasquerader Sat 30-Mar-13 02:24:37

I would say it's an association thing - they've come to be synonymous with 'sexiness' and feminity.

It was probably in the 40/50s that women first came out from under their clothes for public consumption - think stereotypical pin-up girls, Betty Grable, etc. And those women, due to the era, inevitably wore sussies and stockings.

Women in their underwear or even naked now - on billboards, in music videos, in ads, selling everything and anything regardless of whether nudity is required or appropriate - doesn't even raise the slightest of eyebrows, so it's hard to imagine exactly how 'shocking' and provocative and alluring it was back then. But it would have been very provocative and would have got a million pulses racing like never before.

So stockings and suspenders have come to epitomise sex, sexuality, 'up for it' women. And probably as the generations pass, the less it will appeal in such a universal way, since men are now more and more desensitised to female nudity due to its utter ubiquitousness...

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:05:12

I think it's that glimpse of flesh at the top of the stocking, quite sexy but I can take them or leave them to be honest.

I'm just wondering, if someone asked why those tight black boxers beckham wears in that advert were sexy and I replied, 'compliance with matriarchal norms of men as sex objects for women'. Would you agree? or think, er, no, they just look nice?

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmmmmmmmm Fri 29-Mar-13 22:50:26

PS. Sienna Miller in Layer Cake.

No more needs be said.blush

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmmmmmmmm Fri 29-Mar-13 22:39:42

Amazing. Apparently, the majority opinion from the blokes is that " They do nothing for me............." Hmmmmmmmm hmm

This reminds me of Wayne & Waynetta Slob, when Waynetta was trying to be sexy & didn't have stockings so put on tights instead. Not the same effect at all!

KatyTheCleaningLady Fri 29-Mar-13 14:48:02

I think they like the combination of silky legs and easy access.

More importantly, though, they are associated with Porn and sexy moods.... They are a sex costume that women wear to be "sexy."

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