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Why men like stockings and suspenders?

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MsBakingCakes Sun 11-Mar-12 23:39:25

Had a chat with DP last night and he cannot explain why men like women in stockings and suspenders. I do not know the answer so I thought that here in mumsnet someone would come and helps us discover why.

He is not sure either but thinks it is sexy but he does not know why.

Anyone out there to help us please?

HotDAMNlifeisgood Sun 11-Mar-12 23:45:48

Because in our society, they are shorthand for femininity - i.e. compliance with patriarchal norms of women as sex objects for men.

HTH.

MeltedChocolate Sun 11-Mar-12 23:46:01

DP says it's because it has become a sex symbol thing??

I wondered if it was the tease of the tights which blocked access(?) being brought down to a level that exposed and allowed the access(?) and of course suspenders were used to kept them in place, but that the garment was still partly there, so a teasing thing? that has now become a sex symbol as DP says?

Sorry, I'm not so good with the words.

MeltedChocolate Sun 11-Mar-12 23:46:50

It seems that DP isn't that interested in it though.

MsBakingCakes Sun 11-Mar-12 23:51:19

HotDAMNlifeisgood: DP is not that type of man TBH and he is telling right now that he does not want me compliance, that that is not the idea at all but I can understand your point in that in some cases it may be the reason.

I just think it is very funny that a person can be turned on by something like this but I guess that is the game grin

MsBakingCakes Sun 11-Mar-12 23:51:55

Any men out there that wants to come and express an opinion?

joanofarchitrave Sun 11-Mar-12 23:53:06

IMO it is contrast. Like the contrast between texture of breast skin and texture of nipple, it is contrast between texture of stocking and texture of soft thigh skin (OK am turning myself on here, hope I don't get reported). Also colour contrast in some cases, depending on skin colour obv.

LeBOF Sun 11-Mar-12 23:55:26

It's the glimpse of flesh, I think.

DoUntoOtters Sun 11-Mar-12 23:57:24

They also provide a handy framing effect - belt, suspenders, stocking tops. Let's a man know what he should be aiming for.

MsBakingCakes Sun 11-Mar-12 23:59:01

DP saying that he likes the contrast and the glimpse of flesh too so we may be arriving to the reasons of why stockings and suspenders turn men on. Any other ideas?

He just saw the light and thought that i may be also because I am wearing something sexy that I know he likes it, but he has just tried to fix it saying that I look sexy all the time grin

Just asked DP. He said they are old fashioned, he reckons his dad's generation would like them but none of his mates would.

oikopolis Mon 12-Mar-12 00:01:09

no idea.

DH has confessed to me that he can't understand the love some men have for elaborate underwear. "isn't it sexier to be NAKED?" he asks. lol.

i do think it's symbolic of a woman lifting her skirt either accidentally or not, the sight of the tops of stockings meaning that the viewer has seen something "forbidden". and suggesting that the viewer is being invited to unclip the suspenders etc.

it's also about old-fashioned women's clothing though, the restrictive kind that we wore to please men. so a woman in suspenders = a woman who wants to please a man, maybe (though tbf i know women who wear stockings, not tights, because they have issues with thrush etc.)

izzyizin Mon 12-Mar-12 00:06:18

Apparently, it's not so much the sight of a woman in nylons/suspenders as the feel of bare flesh after a hand has been run up a stockinged leg that excites.

I have a thing for men who wear suspenders - or 'braces' in British English - but I find 'suspenders' (or garter belts in Amercian English) that hold up socks a complete turn off.

If a guy can't keep his socks up without help, it makes me wonder what else he won't be able to keep up grin

colditz Mon 12-Mar-12 00:07:49

Because they frame the genital area.

Surely lots of Women wear stockings because they are more comfortable though, maybe just maybe it's because men find Women sexually attractive, maybe a glimpse of stocking would remind them of what is above said stocking.

Also tights are quite ugly with their gussets and waistbands and whatnot, I suppose stockings have become a bit niche, but at one point they would have been the norm.

Bogeyface Mon 12-Mar-12 00:08:37

STBX never bothered about them, he always said that either fully clothed and getting naked together or just being naked was sexier. Ex H did love them though, and he said that it was because if I was wearing them then he knew he was onto a sure thing and that always turned him on grin

I am not sure that its because they are sexy so much as tights are so un-sexy!

MsBakingCakes Mon 12-Mar-12 00:09:37

DP has come with another reason. Women wear stockings not girls

Bogeyface Mon 12-Mar-12 00:12:05

Or it could be that we walk in a "sexy" way when wearing stockings. Its actually because we are avoiding getting thwacked in the fanny by a rogue piece of elastic but the walk might look sexy!

garlicbutter Mon 12-Mar-12 00:22:46

What HotDAMN said. It's not a conscious choice, it's more of a conditioned response. Like when you see, I dunno, a Galaxy wrapper, you might instantly think "Mmm! I fancy some chocolate!" Not all men do find stockings a turn-on. I found that men my own age all did (not that I've sampled them all, you understand!) while it was about 50/50 with younger chaps.

It IS all about conditioning. Did you know the Victorians found a flash of ankle so lewd, they put skirts on their CHAIR AND TABLE legs?!

Nutters. No wonder they invented pornography.

diotima Mon 12-Mar-12 01:12:10

Surely it's about experiences and associations? A bit like a song forever reminding us of the first occasion we heard it. We all know that can provoke a very strong emotion. Men who developed an erotic interest in women at the time women wore stockings and suspenders are going to find stockings and suspenders erotically charged. I think the chocolate wrapper theory is probably about right too wink. You see the wrapper and anticipate the chocolate.

PoppaRob Mon 12-Mar-12 01:42:13

Chiming in as a bloke, albeit an Aussie one... They do nothing for me. I've never found stockings, suspenders or high heels in any way attractive. Boots with a bit of a chunky heel or wedge sandals to give a bit of extra height are fine, but the standard high heels are a turnoff. Mind you I'm not a big fan of make-up either, so maybe I just prefer a more casual look?

pluckingupcourage Mon 12-Mar-12 01:50:47

I wonder also if it is the framing effect: though DH doesn't like them much. I had an ex who liked them however.

While we're about it could someone explain men's attraction to white blouses/shirts on women. I give you Woody Allen films as exhibit A (Matchpoint for example).

garlicbutter Mon 12-Mar-12 01:53:15

Urgh, Woody Allen. He may like white shirts; he also likes shagging his stepdaughter! Example fail, plucking wink

pluckingupcourage Mon 12-Mar-12 01:54:30

It was slightly disconcerting to think of Mr Allen putting Scarlett Johanssen into a white shirt and rubbing his thighs vigorously while filming a wet shirt sequence.

garlicbutter Mon 12-Mar-12 01:55:40

rubbing his thighs vigorously grin

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