I would appreciate your advice on this ladies, its long so i willjust highlight the main points...
- Dp has had quite a rough childhood in glasgow, mum drinking/disappearing/taking overdoses/no friends/doing drugs etc. Dp's dad worked away when he was younger so dp was working full time from 13 to support himself. (he originally lived with grandparents til he was 6 who he thought were his parents but Grandad died.)
- He left home at 16 and joined the army, he's doing very well and is respected inhis career (when his mother doesnt phone up drunk and have hysterics on the phone with CO)
- His mum is always getting drunk leaving appalling messages on our phone, lots of them and has once took an O/D whilst we were there (dd was 1.11, she is now 5 and we have never been back)
- She has been on the phone to me all morning begging for forgiveness, saying she has seen a solicitor for access to dd (she has seen her once in 3 years and i have always encouraged her to stay in contact) and wants to 'start again'.
- Dp is fuming that she can just expect him to forget everything, i cant stand her but would like her to see dd regulary but dont think its gonna happen and it would be nice for DD i think to have another set of Grandparents.
Anyway, what are your thoughts? Do we give in for the sake of peace and for dd or say 'NO' to the pscyho granny from Glasgow?!