Just need to vent a bit really. I have 4 sisters and 1 brother. We?re a mixed bag, really, lots of parental issues. They all live in Australia, I?m the only one who lives in the UK.
I get along very well with 1 sister, talk on the phone a lot and share lots of things with. Get along pretty well with my brother, talk occasionally, always there for each other if needed. 1 sister is an alcoholic with lots of issues. Eldest is a bossy boots who thinks everyone should do exactly as she says, she is getting better but I?m in the habit of ignoring her now and don?t see her often enough for the dynamic to change properly. Talk occasionally, friendly when we do.
Last sister ? complete and utter bitch in my opinion. She detests my DH, has tried to break up our marriage, accused him of having an affair (I believe at the time SHE was having an affair ? at least according to the man who was a business colleague of DH's who she had become ?very close to? at the time and I think she made the accusations to make sure we didn?t say anything about HER behaviour). She also tried to destroy his business and I went many years with not even speaking to her.
For the sake of the rest of my family I am now politely civil to her when we are in each other?s company, which is very rarely ? every 3 or so years, for a lunch or a dinner. Pretty much the last conversation we had she felt she needed to tell me that I was an arrogant show off and I needed to stop bragging and big noting myself. When I queried her on what it was I had ?bragged? about the only 2 examples she could come up with was the car I owned and the Uni I had attended here in the UK. At the time I had a jag and said as much when one of my nieces (her daughter) asked what sort of car I had. The Uni example was due to a conversation with a nephew (son of the nice sister) about his choice of universities. He wanted to choose an interstate university and when I asked why, he said because of its good reputation. I pointed out to him that the reputation of the university was important, but what was more important was the reputation of the school/faculty he wanted to study in, and gave him the example of my uni, which had an ok reputation, but that my school had a brilliant reputation and I felt that was more important. She couldn?t give me any other examples, and I told her she could think what she liked and I didn?t really give a damn.
Of course she said all this in private where no one else could hear. She doesn?t actually want OTHERS to think of her as a bitch! (Although my brother doesn?t have any time for her at all, because although he won?t use the words ? doesn?t swear ?he agrees with me on what she is!)
Now out of the blue her daughter has sent an invite to her (my Sister?s) anniversary party which is 2 weeks away ? we only just received it, no mention has ever been made of it by anyone so clearly there was never any intention of us ever actually going on their part, and I?m pretty sure she knows I would never have had any intention of going. She scrawled on a note which was included in the envelope that she is going to be in London for a 2 week holiday and it would be great to catch up if I have the time. I?m just so wound up over this, she has planned this trip for months, she has my bloody email address, she could have emailed me if she wanted to. All she cares about is that she is now able to tell the family that she did contact me about catching up so that if I don?t make the effort it is all my fault. Chatting to the sister I do like I made the mistake of mentioning it and she?s all ?oh you need to see her, you need to invite her over, etc, etc?. When I asked why I should, especially given the last thing she had said to me she said ?you need to make peace with her, you?re sisters. You need to get along. It really hurts me to have 2 sisters who don?t get along?.
Phfft, to that, just because she?s my sister does NOT mean I have to get along with her. I pointed out that us not getting along has absolutely nothing to do with her and has no bearing on what she is like as a person, but she really tried to make me feel guilty about it. Instead I just feel angry. I don?t particularly care what others think, I don?t want to see her. She doesn?t want to see me, the note was just a charade for other people. I just want her to fuck off out of my life really.
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Just want my sister to stay out of my life!
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tiredandfrazzled · 27/02/2012 15:10
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