relationship advice please....

[ittleappen]

Some advice would be good please, after being a single parent of 2dc for 4 years and feel abit of a novice with relationships. I have met a guy, and we have been seeing each other for 4 months.

I am unclear on where I stand, we see each other most evenings and occasionally go out one night in the weekend. I have grown fond of him. When we first started seeing each other we did confess that we were not looking for a serius relationship (i wasn't entirely honest about that).

Its to the point where I don't what to regard him as when we go out with friends. Are we in a relationship or are we just friends with benefits?

[Conflugenglugen]

ittlehappen - have you thought about asking him what you're asking us?

[izzyizin]

It sounds as if there's a bit of both going on here especially if you are going out and about with mutual friends.

Does he see other women?

Given that you've only been seeing him for 4 months, I suggest you keep going with the flow and enjoy yourself as he might be a slow burner and he may take fright if you make a premature declaration of more serious intent, as it were.

On the other hand, if natural - as opposed to forced/planned - opportunity arises you could express yourself as having grown very fond of him but, after saying no more than that, I suggest you leave the ball in his court.

[fabwoman]

If you are sharing bodily fluids you shouldn't be scared to ask him how things are going in his mind and how he sees the next few months.

[ittleappen]

As far as I'm aware he isn't seeing anyone else.
I think I will go with the flow for the time being and continue enjoying the time, a few more months perhaps. There is one thing dating around but when you grow fond feelings for someone, its a whole new world.

Thanks all :)