I am really really struggling at the moment, I feel so overwhelmed with sadness and worry. I am having therapy and I am on anti-depressants.
I cut myself fairly badly last Friday (cut a vein, had to be sewn up by a plastic surgeon). It was the first time I have cut myself in 4 years. I last cut myself for a period of 4 months shortly before we married. My DH is upset and angry and announced tonight that if I cut myself again he will leave me. I am so so upset, I just feel like I cannot guarantee I won't cut myself again. And what happened to in sickness and in health?
He will not accept that my self harm is part me being unwell mentally, he just says that it is a choice (which I know it is but it is not as simple as me thinking Oh I won't self harm and that's that.) I know that my self harm is at a dangerous level and I know that I am now at a stage where I am starting to put myself at risk with my cutting. I know he is scared and he doesn't want to deal with that and he wants me to stay safe.
I know all of that but I just want him to be there no matter what. I feel guilty all of the time for what I have done to him, I feel guilty all of the time for how much I have screwed my life up again and again and again.
I just feel like leaving right here right now and being done with it because if that is how he feels about me what is the point? I am so upset with all of this. I just feel totally stuck.
I am trying not to cut and I would rather not but ultimatums (which this is) only serve to make you feel worse.
Ugh
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donttellmeoff · 23/02/2012 21:40
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