I have a great relationship with DSS and have done since DH and I got together 11 years ago. He is now 18 and doing well at Uni, has a great social life, job, etc etc. He and DH get on great and often go running together and for a pint etc.
DSS came to see me today (I'm off work this week) and said that he has something he wanted to tell me, was a bit stressed and eventually told me that he's gay. I was mightily relieved because he seemed so worried about it I thought he was ill or something. I couldn't give a rat's ass if he's gay or not, I love him dearly and just want him to be happy.
Now here's the problem. He told me all this then told me that he absolutely could not contemplate telling his dad just now and asked (begged really) me to keep it to myself until he felt he could tell him. I told him that his dad won't care but he's convinced that DH will be horrified and 'disown' him. Incidentally his mum knows and all fine there too.
Now I'd be lying if I said that DH will be clapping his hands in delight but I can honestly say that I genuinely feel that he will be fine with it. I suppose he'll feel that he needs to get used to it but he's not the kind of man to freak out about something like this and above all, he loves his son. Of course, I feel bloody awful about knowing this and not telling DH but I really do not want to break DSS's trust (and I won't), but this is really, really bothering me. Plus, DSS is going to get himself in a right state worrying about it in the meantime.
How do I deal with this?
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finding this situation horrendously difficult.
Megatron · 13/02/2012 22:03
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