Help dumping him!

[Headsamess]

Hello lovelies,

I've gone and got myself a horrid BF whose just confessed he thinks women should be hit if they deserve it, and keeps OCD cleaning my house, and has been snooping through my belongings (photo albums, old letters, reads over my shoulder when I am replying to texts, looking on the phone to see whose calling me, etc.) We've only been together about 7 weeks and I have a DS whose two. I've been in a DV relationship with DS's dad and left (after the first couple of times he hit me, didn't wait around to see if it would get worse as he was emotionally abusive too) and I wondered how do I get out of this relationship peacefully, bit scared he might go a bit psycho on me after what he told me this week. Bit scared if I do it just before/on Valentines Day I might hit his 'women who deserve to be hit' criteria...So best way to make a clean break advice would be very helpful here....I want to say something that leaves it open to no negotiation and gets it over and done with, but don't necessarily want to go into details (i.e. I think he is a potential psychopath tendency and thus I do not want to tell him this as it might bring out whatever tendency he has)....

Thoughts please? Thanks!!

[ArtVandelay]

Do it now - immediately. Before he has chance to give you any sort of gift or 'treat' tomorrow. Phone him and just tell him that you don't want to see him anymore.

What on earth is someone you've known for only 7 weeks doing with unfettered access to your home and things, especially when you have a toddler. Isn't it confusing for him if some man he doesn't know is all over your house? Seriously, in future remember its okay to date at arms length and you are allowed to decide who comes in your house and what they do there :)

[WorraLiberty]

If you're truly scared of him then end the relationship by phone.

Tell him you're just not ready for a relationship and you don't think you two are compatible.

Be firm and unbending, don't enter into a debate about it.

Tell a close friend or family member first what you're doing and why and make sure (if possible) they can be on hand if you need them.

Before you do all this, make sure you have someone to look after your 2yr old son and never invite someone like that to your child's home again when you don't properly know them

Don't be afraid to call the Police if you need to.

Good luck.

[Ragwort]

Agree with Art - just tell him immediately (on the phone) that you do not want to see him again, and put the phone down.

But please, take on board what Art has said, it is totally inappropriate to invite someone into your house and life after such a short time. Date in public ................ and take it slowly next time .

[Pollykitten]

gosh this is a bit out of my area but didn't want to read and run. Agree with ArtVanderlay that a phone dumping is in order - can you make it clear you have a large man in your house (rugby-playing cousin / copper brother?) who is staying for a bit? Good luck and the sooner the better - he sounds awful.

[flatbellyfella]

I hope he has not moved in with you for 7 weeks, & it's 7 weeks since you met him. You must end it soon as possible if he is so obnoxious .Better not to confront him if you fear for your safety. Phone or text him to end it. Best wishes.

[ArtVandelay]

OP - whats your situation? Is he living with you?