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Help! Found Valentines Card(s) in H's bag!

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FeedMeCakeNOW · 12/02/2012 21:01

Please tell me I'm being irrational and there's a simple explanation for this.

H is out at the pub with his dad. I've just been tidying up the livingroom and found H's work notebook lying around. I knew he'd need it for work tomorrow so I put it into his work bag, and when I did that I found three brand new Valentines Day cards (not yet written on). One was "to my wife" (obviously for me) - but there were two more! One was pretty generic, it was decorated with random Valentines-related words ("always", "be mine", "happiness", "kisses", etc) and the other was decorated with an image of love heart sweets and has the words "BE MINE" in large font.

What should I make of this? It looks like they were all purchased at the same time, as they're all from Sainsburys.

My first thought was WTF?! Then I tried to think of a reasonable explanation. We have two very young children. Perhaps the other cards are going to be from them to me? But if that is the case - isn't "BE MINE" a little inappropriate for a young baby?

If they were for 'other women', would he really be stupid enough to leave them in his bag in the livingroom? We have a toddler who could easily get into it.

What would you think if you saw these in your husband's bag? Would you confront or wait until Valentines Day?

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pepperrabbit · 12/02/2012 21:04

My DH has been known to buy cards from the kids, try to send "anonymous" ones and the usual one obviously from him. Actually they're all "obviously" from him!
I'd wait till Valentine's Day TBH.

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FeedMeCakeNOW · 12/02/2012 21:06

Thanks pepper. My heart was racing there for a moment. What confused me is that the other cards are not exactly what children would send KWIM?

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kumquatsarethelonelyfruit · 12/02/2012 21:06

Wait and see.

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Wormshuffler · 12/02/2012 21:06

You will have to wait until the day unfortunately, I would be tempted to photograph them so there is no wriggling out of it.
Could they be joke ones for work friends ?

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kumquatsarethelonelyfruit · 12/02/2012 21:07

Men wouldn't think that deeply about a message on a card.

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FeedMeCakeNOW · 12/02/2012 21:08

Worm - good idea re: photos. I'll do that now.

kum - I hope you're right!

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JamRagRolyPoly · 12/02/2012 21:08

I bought two cards last year as I couldn't decide between the two, could be that? I'd ask him

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Pandygirl · 12/02/2012 21:09

I always buy DP more than one card, and I think from the kids is probably likely in this case.
(Also 3 cards is actually less suspicious than 2, he's unlikely to be have 2 affairs).

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fiveisanawfullybignumber · 12/02/2012 21:10

I know its hard but wait till valentines day. If you don't get the other two he can't use the excuse of kids. It more than likely is from them, but just in case they aren't for you, don't give him the opportunity to wheedle his way out of it.
Hopefully you'll get 3 lovely cards Tuesday morning .

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FeedMeCakeNOW · 12/02/2012 21:11

Pandy - good point re: 3 being less suspicious.

I'll bite my tongue until Tuesday.

Guys, what would you suggest I do if I only get one card on Tuesday?

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izzyizin · 12/02/2012 21:11

Was it a buy 2 get one free offer? Could he be playing cupid for another couple? Sending one to his mum, one to a sister?

I'd wait until Valentine's Day and, if I wasn't able to account for 3 cards, I'd take another look in his workbag to see if they were still in evidence and if they've disappeared I'd ask what he did with the cards I inadvertently noticed the other day in a jokey, non-confrontational manner - i.e did he send them to other members of his harem, is he after a couple of the neighbours, etc.

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Ambersivola · 12/02/2012 21:11

Probably bought a choice of cards!

Actually, I bought two this year; one for "The One I Love" and the other for "My Boyfriend". The recipient is my hubby for both.

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northcountrygirl · 12/02/2012 21:16

I always send my children cards so they think they have an admirer - could be that?

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FeedMeCakeNOW · 12/02/2012 21:25

north - my children are both under 2 years of age.

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catsareevil · 12/02/2012 21:32

He could be intending them to be for you from the children but not considered the message on them.

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FeedMeCakeNOW · 12/02/2012 21:35

cats - I hope so!

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SuePurblybilt · 12/02/2012 21:35

Doing a wind-up on some poor bloke at work? If you don't get them, don't be convinced there's a sinister explanation. There could be, but don't panic yet.

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EightiesChick · 12/02/2012 21:39

I've often bought two cards and thought I'd use the one I don't send at a later date. So has my DH. I agree with looking in the work bag again after the 14th if you only get one. Could you also 'find' the Sainsbury's receipt and remark 'innocently' that he bought three cards, gosh that's a lot, were they all valentines? and see what surfaces then. But seriously, it's quite likely there'll be a non-worrying explanation.

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catsareevil · 12/02/2012 21:42

Are there any birthdays coming up in the family soon? I know some men who have bought entirely the wrong type of card for the occasion. Grin

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maleview70 · 12/02/2012 21:42

I can see it now...man in card Aisle buy his wife a card and thinks oh shit I better get two from the kids, picks up 2 random cards and chucks em in his basket. He wont have read them! Men just are not into stuff like that especially if from the kids!

He wouldnt have left them lying around if there was anything sinister

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BillyBollyBandy · 12/02/2012 21:56

Relating to the message being inappropriate...

When me and DH first got together, Valentines was when we had been dating 2 weeks. I carefully purchased a card that made no mention of love, slush, forever, anything like that. Took me ages.

Opened a card from DH with "I love you" emblazoned across the front and a box of Black Magic Hmm Grin

He will not have thought about the message, would put money on them being off/to the kids

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NunWithADirtyHabbit · 14/02/2012 09:05

Did you get 3 cards ?

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RealitySickOfSick · 14/02/2012 09:07

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fuzzPigwickPapers · 14/02/2012 09:09

Hope all was explained today OP!

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MABS · 14/02/2012 09:23

hope all ok?

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