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Trying to break the trend of sad threads on the Relationships topic, I am announcing that... my DP and I are getting married!

On Chinese New Year, exactly 3 years after we started going out together, he prepared me a traditional Chinese dinner of hot pot, and even bought a Chinese liquor to go with it, and before going to bed he went on his knee and asked me THE question. And I said yes! ))

I actually almost spoiled his surprise by moaning about our relationship not moving on the day before :P

I know it's hardly a planetary event, but it is for me! I never thought I would get married, not because I believe marriage is useless, but precisely the contrary: after many short-lived relationships in which I was always the one to call the shots, I never believed I would find anyone I could commit to. However, my DP (I still have to get used to call him a "fiance") is the kind of man I never thought existed. He is a good man, forgiving, he has no malice, he holds no grudges, even to people who treated him badly in the past. He is generous, affectionate, sweet, intelligent and hard-working (and has broken his cycle of workaholism because he realized it was important to me). He loves me unconditionally, is honest, his family clearly adore him and he them. He is great in bed, he is an amazing cook, and lo and behold... my mum loves him! (this last is unprecedented with any of my or my sister's boyfriends). I really couldn't let him get away!

And most important of all, he is the only person in the World I see myself growing old with.

So if everything goes as planned, in January next year we will be having a very simple beach wedding (Summer in New Zealand) with just close family and friends, and a bbq afterwards, in the most authentic Kiwi style. I would have married him next week with just two friends as witnesses and a marriage celebrant, but my family and friends from Spain surprised me by insisting in coming, so we decided to delay the ceremony .

So, for me it is a new career (currently re-training as a midwife) and a husband-to-be in 2012. Definitely much more promising than last year, when we lived in constant fear of earthquakes in Christchurch.

And in my very best MN style, I can only finish this post with a big HUGS TO ALL!!!

A Very Happy Spaniard

Congratulations! I'm a bit that you got a lovely proposal story to tell whereas people just tend to at mine.

Congratulations!!!!!!!!
It's so nice to read a happy story
Enjoy the feeling of being newly engaged. It's the best!

Have reported my last post for oversharing <eek>

Sorry.

alessthandomesticgoddess, you can't leave us like that now, you have to tell us your engagement story

LeoTheLateBloomer thank you! I feel like a complete idiot floating among the clouds. But I intend to treasure these moments, because it isn't that often that everything in life is working, and nice, and happy, and lovely, and exciting.

CumpyGrunt (love your name), sorry things are not working so much for you at the moment. Perhaps your DP needs a small nudge re the wedding? it would be a nice thing to do for yourselves

He proposed to me in bed. He just rolled over and said "I love you. Will you marry me?" No ring, very simple and I said yes.

He has spent the past three years making up for it. The first 'do-over' was when he got down on one knee in a car park next to our car and pulled out a plastic ring he got from a 20p machine outside of the newsagent. Typical proposal from him.

The last time was special because he'd bought the ring I chose and longed for when we could afford it. He'd stuck up post-it notes from the bedroom to the dining room and had bought me wine, Monster caffeine drinks, chocolate, a book etc - all of my favourite things until I got to the ring. That was lovely.

I never tell anyone about the other proposals as it makes it seem like I made him do it over or the other way, that I'm bragging. The simple proposal was the best for me (but I do love my ring) but that seems to get people's backs up like he just did it for something to say.

Your story is just lovely. I'm going to make DF do another!

aless, how can you think your story is not romantic! I think every single one of the proposals were so sweet and beautiful, I would not change them for one at the top of the Eiffel Tower during a sunset. I also did not have a ring on "proposal day", but we went to buy one together. I did not find any of the ones in the jewellers "special", so we ended up buying an estate jewelry ring, more than 50 years old, with lots of history to it, and absolutely beautiful. Girls here don't like "second hand rings", but as a European I appreciate that it has been loved before. And it was half the price of the valuation, as no one else wanted it! I like to think it had been waiting for us all along (puketastic, I know .

aless My (now) DH asked me in the kitchen whilst I was peeling the potatoes
Was the Last day of the month and It went like this:
DH: Oh, um, ooh, um, um, um, ooh, ooh, will you marry me, ooh, um um?
Me: What the fuck is that? At least sound as though you mean it!
DH: Oh um, ooh, um
Me going upstairs maybe some slamming of doors

24 hours later, and the first day of the month, we talked sensibly and were very happy to set a date to get married.

He now loves to tell people that it took me a month to give him my answer

Oh and he didn't have a ring for me. But told me that he had the money and we could choose together. I always wanted my mums engagement ring as mine (she died when I was younger)so put that on my ring finger and told him he could give me the money for clothes instead Think it went on the car in the end

What lovely news aurynne

aless - that's a lovely engagement story

Congratulations aurynne, that's lovely news! I hope next year brings a better summer for your wedding
That's such a great thing to happen after a rather wobbly 2011

Congratulations!!!!

My DP proposed at the end of the pier in Whitby. We'd gone for a walk on the beach there on our first date. So he wanted to go back there.

We get married in 8 weeks

I love hearing all your engagement stories, please keep them coming!

Kayzr, how exciting, congratulations to you too!!! Are you getting married at the pier too?

Unfortunately not. But we are hoping to have pictures taken on there.

Congratulations! Good luck with the new career and wedding

Thank you for the good news.

Lovely news.You are one lucky lady.

Remember to post us some photos after the big day

Congratulations Aurynne. I remember your original thread about his workaholism; think I was quite cynical at the time about the likelihood he would change. Sometimes it's really nice to be wrong!

congratulations !

Congratulations Aurynne.
My DH didn't really propose, as such. We had been away for my birthday, which is at the end of Feb and it happened to be a leap year. When we got back on 1st March, we were talking whilst I was sitting on him in bed (fully clothed!) and he said "I thought you were going to propose to me last night" I hadn't any such idea and said that I would want to be proposed to, so he said "what would you say if I did?" to which I replied "Are you asking?" When he said I suppose so, I said yes!
Not exactly romantic but as that was 20 years ago in a few weeks time, I guess it was the right decision

how lovely,congratulations aurynne.

I wish I could remember what happened when we got engaged as I was really shocked,I had to ask him to do it again when we got home that night so I could remember,the people looking on must of thought omg because I cried so much.

Good luck with everything you have planned xx

My DP had some chocolate in a bag, he said which ones do you want? I put my hands over my eyes an said 'surprise me' he did when I opened them he was down on one knee with a gorgeous white gold diamond ring, I said yes and there were such very smiley faces <<< like this

Forgot to say congratulations

Congratulations!!! As were sharing engagement stories, we were in Vegas, and had talked about getting married on the last day of our holiday, so figured i'd done myself out of a proposal, but while we were driving round the grand canyon, he pulled over and asked me! Despite it not being a surprise I burst out crying like a complete numpty! No ring, but glad I got asked! We were married 5 days later! Now have 15 weeks to wait for a bundle of joy!!!

Congratulations aurynne!! Lovely thoughtful proposal.

Mine was in bed too aress, went something like DH "fancy getting married Rene?", me "alright then, I guess so" 10 years this year- he has got better at 'romance' bless him!