To ask the cat rescue to take one of the cats back?

[MurmuringClothDoll]

We adopted 2 brothers 10 months ago...they were 6 then. According to the rexcue they were well adjusted and affectionate and suited to a home with children.

They ARE affctionate but they are not doing as well as they should. ONe of them has been domineering with the other since day one...he pees on the bed every other day and we have replaced the duvet three times.

I have had them both checked for UTIs. Apparently the cat is insecure.

He is always looking for attention...fine...I will happily stroke a cat...but when his brother seeks attention he then attacks him...this has made his brother very jumpy and last week after getting bitten on his shoulder he ran into the coffee table in a panic and knocked his fang out.

The dominant brother then goes and pees on the bed...as soon as ONE thing annoys or upsets him...such as I put him out for a while or his brother gets to sit on my DHs lap....or his dinner is late...he pees. ALways on our bed.

I tried feliway and provide the litter they alwayas had but no improvement.

I have done with it. Last nght I got into bed where my three year old was asleep and the cat had pissed on the bed whilst she slept in it. I changed the entire bed and then went to sleep.

I woke up this morning and my DH had left the door open and the cat had pissed on the bed again while we were all asleep.

I contacted the rescue 4 days ago and then before that too and they have not got back to me...I explained the problem and indicated the cats should probably be separated....no reply. What do I do???

[WhereMyMilk]

Not sure, but think you should get this post moved to The Litter Tray-you might get more answers

[LadyMedea]

They need to be separated, and the dominant one probably needs to be a in a one cat household.

Just keep ringing them or turn up at their premises with the cat. If not try another cat rescue service.

[TooEasilyTempted]

Turn up there with the cat. It's a bit off that they're ignoring your calls. I'd just turn up there with the cat, explain the problem and leave it there.

[Lueji]

You could still advertise to give the cat.

Are they castrated?

[JamRagRolyPoly]

Why not shut all the bedroom doors and keep him in a room with Lino floor and litter tray at night?

[VenusStarr]

my mom's cat displayed similar behaviour - she is a rescue cat, but they rehomed her as a singleton - she was the last one left :-( to deal with the weeing on the bed, my mom keeps the bedroom doors closed and at nighttime the cat sleeps in the dining room. the cat is very much in a routine now and effectively 'puts herself to bed', especially when she's had enough attention.

in terms of the behaviour towards the other cat i dont really know what to suggest other than going back to your vet and discussing it with him. what did they say when you took the one who knocked his fang out? :-( my two have a little rough and tumble, but not full on scraps.

do you play with them both together? maybe whilst one is having a cuddle someone else could distract / play with the dominant one?

[virgil]

I have literaly just had to throw cushions at our two male kittens (10 months) to stop them fighting. They wer absolutely fine one minute both lying happily together and the next second one was growling at the other and then they started scrapping.

I think they need castrating since one is "overly friendly" with the other and that seems to set it off. Are yours castrated

[catsareevil]

I had a similar issue, but in retrospect I'm sure that they werent brothers at all!
I eventually gave one of the cats to someone with a huge garden and no children. This led to two very happy cats, rather than two miserable ones.

[Ratata]

Get one or both castrated. It's not very fair to split up brothers without trying everything you can first. With regards to the beds, keep the doors closed. I had a rat who was very dominant and marked everything and didn't get along with my other rats and would bite me. Got him castrated and solved all the problems. Will be similar with male cats.

[janelikesjam]

Don't let cats rule your life. Sounds horrendous. Enjoy one cat! Let the other find a happy home!

[MurmuringClothDoll]

Ratata they are already neutered. Is that what you mean by "castrated"?

And rats are not the same really.

[ThisIsNotMyLife]

Keep the bedroom doors shut.

Have you tried cat nip? Works better than those expensive cat hormone things. Plenty of toys that they encouraged to destroy?

www.ikea.com/gb/en/catalog/products/10191259/ My cat loves this.

If they are being a pain - throw them both outside (though maybe only for fifteen minutes in this weather).

[kodachrome]

I think you should go down to the rescue centre you got them from and ask for help. They are probably not responding because they're generally manned by volunteers and are snowed under. If you go down there and talk to them face to face they won't be able to leave it until later (and then it gets forgotten). They will be able to advise you and if they can't solve it for you, then they will either take back the problem cat or help you rehome it from your place.

[ZuzuandZara]

Definitely get the rescue to take one back. One cat pissing everywhere is a sure sign it's unhappy. Totally disagree with keeping them together because they're brothers as another poster said. They don't know that! The dominant one will be miserable and confused and the less dominant one will be miserable and confused. And in pain! I'm not one for suggesting to 'give up' on an animal and hand it back to the rescue but in this case it does seem like they are both unhappy.

Keep harassing the rescue, they really should take responsibility but don't blame them, it's difficult to fully assess animals in a rehoming centre.

Only thing I would question is how many litter trays you have? Do they have one each at least? Even if they have enough litter trays it still sounds as if this behaviour may have gone too far.

It seems like you've done everything you can as a responsible owner, feliway, getting them checked for UTIs etc. They just don't get on.

Good luck and move this to the animal section, this is for human relationships not feline

[LadyMedea]

I agree with zuzu don't worry about splitting them up. I always understood hat once cats, and articulately males, have reached maturity all family bonds are off anyway.

[MurmuringClothDoll]

yes they have 2 trays. I agree now...that splittig them is better. Not all brothers love each other!