Is it the end?

[georgejack]

Can't bring myself to talk to friends or my mum but I just don't think I want to be with OH any more. I'm scared of being on my own and I hate the thought of DD being from a broken family.
We have been together 5 years, we have had ups and downs but nothing really major. When I had DD (she is now 2) I had severe PND and sent the first 3 months in hospital with DD. I had a re-lapse last year but now i'm thankfully stable and enjoying her so so much. He has always been good regarding this but was and still is always reminding me that he had a hard time over it too. It seems like he will never let it go.
He has some health problems too but I think they all stem from depression.He won't get help for it but constantly moans about all his ailments. It really grates on me. He is often going for lie downs. I do most of the house hold things and was working up until a month ago when I got made redundant. I do ask him to do certain things like empty the bin but I have to ask at least 3 times. He is a good dad.
It's the constant moaning and the fact that he doesn't listen to anything I have to say. If I go out or watch something on telly on he cooks he throws these things back in my face if we argue and tells me how good I have it.
He is now off work sick so him being in the house more is making it worse.
He is trying to start an internet business but so far after 4 months has made no money and he thinks he can make it work but I don't. I have tried to be as supportive as I can but it all seems like talk and nothing actually works.
He is constantly sating he is worn out and it's making me feel so low because there is nothing positive about him.
I think I love him but I don't like the way he is. We don't seem to have the same vision, I want to move house and don't think it will ever happen as he doesn't want to push himself for a better wage. My friend knows about a full time job that I could possibly get but I only want to work part time so I can see my DD grow up. He hasn't said it but I think he'll be happy for me to go out and work while he is at home.
I suppose I have this ideal vision of me at home with the kids, a partner that goes out to work and us having family time at the weekends. We mostly argue and when I ask if he wants to come for instance swimming or to the park he says no I'll have a rest.
I'm just fed up I don't want to break the family up but I am miserable.

[SorryMyLollipop]

Does he know how his behaviour is making you feel? Have you told him?
It sounds like a pretty miserable existence.
In what way is he a good dad?

[georgejack]

I try to tell him but he says he supported me and I should support him. I do agree but he isn't helping himself and he seems to be okay with certain people.
He plays with DD and reads to her, he does get up with her as well sometimes.
I just can't help thinking is there someone else out there for me?

[SorryMyLollipop]

It sounds like he is trying to avoid any responsibilty for his actions and the effect he is having on you. You need to take care of yourself, it doesn't sound like he sees the need to change or is willing to face up to things. Maybe you need to explain how miserable you actually are and that if he doesn't do something about his depression/health you are prepared to leave him if thats what you feel.

[Gumby]

If you really think he's depressed I'd tell him to go tothe GP and get help or you'll have to consider leaving

If he gets help you Owe it to him to see what he's like after a few weeks on anti depressants

[BayPolar]

It seems that almost every other person married and with kids is 'depressed' these days in the UK.
What is it with this!
I can understand PND but the rest of it!
It seems that the Brits have become a bunch o pussies and can't deal with anything beyond being able to use the remote or turn their computer on.

If I was in charge of things, I'd stop offering free NHS sessions for 'depression'.
It's time for folks in the UK to take a look at other cultures and how they manage on so much less.