my partner is suffering depression and anxiety. i too suffer from depression but i feel am at the other side of it feel alot better. however i feel so unhappy in my relationship. this is not the man i fell in love with. i still love him sooo much but cant live like this. we have a 3yr old together.
he snaps at me, doesnt talk to me, basic conversation of 2 sentences or involving ds but thats it. he is in a serperate room for 2 years now and loves it.
he doesnt get up with ds ever (i work full time, he is self employed but in the bed every morning til god knows that time). he doesnt bathe him, barely plays with him, has never in his life done housework. yes i knew he was somewhat like that but now its the pits and makes my life hell.
last night i moved a tool that was dangerous for our son to be around onto a higher shelf and he went ballisitic. i was a bitch for doing it and what did he say before about moving his things (apparently i have to ask permission) and if i wasnt happy with that arrangement i was to fuck off somewhere where i was happy. we havent spoken since. he wont either.
he says he is not well, cant cope, wasnt ready for ds so its my fault and even though he does live him i have to rear him.
am at the end of my tether. how long do i live like this hoping he gets better. at this stage i dont know what is anxiety, stress, depression or just being a prick. have had arguments before where i said i was leaving he said go but your not taking ds. then he might say if i find him hanging from a tree it would be my fault.
friends and sis say leave him .... but they only hear my side. i know he is not himself but this is going on 3 years now with no sign if things getting better.
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scuzy · 06/02/2012 13:30
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