Its hard to know the full details but a Wonderful friend of mine has been in what I consider to be an awful, abusive and damaging marriage.
She has covered up for him for years but a few months ago he left her and her 2 year old and 6 month old baby. She decided to 'out him'. It turns out he has done this many times before, including when baby was 2 weeks old. That was 4 months ago and he is still living with his parents and refusing to talk.
He feels he is hard done by if he has to do any child care (friend works full time), he drinks heavily and smokes. He gets angry if she buys a CD, he gets angry if she is having fun. She now lives alone with the kids.
Disclaimer - the rest to follow is my opinion:
He is a controlling wanker who drinks heavily and smokes. He punched her in the face on her 30th birthday.
I say start divorce proceedings - there is no way back.
Last week he started writing cards and they finally met for a
Long talk........he wants to start fresh....says he will change.
She Feels very confused. I will support her whatever she decides as I can't imagine how hard it must be to be alone with 2 kids.
I am posting this to see if anyone has been through this and come out the other end with their marriage now thriving!
Can men like this ever change? ?
Any opinions greatly received. I feel I am the biased interfering friend who only has negative views on him!
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WentworthMillerMad · 05/02/2012 12:09
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