I have name changed for this.
I suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder. I have been getting help for some time and for the last few years I have been improving but it's a long slog.
Live with my DP, been together for 2 years, no kids. Things haven't always been easy but now they're really at a bad point I think.
I currently only work about 20 hours a week. I'm trying to get more work, but it's not that easy and I'm not even getting any interviews when I apply for jobs. He works full time, and earns good money (£28000 a year).
Until last week, I was full time, so I'm ok for money this month but next month I'm going to be skint. I'm so scared. All my money will go on rent and transport and then I don't know what I'll do. I can't claim any benefits because he earns too much.
I asked if we could talk about it tonight, and he said "look, I'm not going to let you starve, but I don't want to be in a relationship where you rely on me for money, I've always said that." To be fair, he has always said that - but I'm so upset. He earns enough to support us both, but says he has no money left at the end of the month - next month he's going to China with friends, he's just paid £40 for a ticket to a club night, he buys lunch every day because he forgets to bring the lunch I make him...meanwhile I'm trying to spend nothing except on the bare essentials.
I'm ashamed to say I totally lost my temper with him tonight and slapped him on the arm. I feel so guilty and have come to sleep on the sofa.
I honestly don't know if I'm being unreasonable to expect him to cut back and help me out a bit more. Or should I just end it? I really don't know.
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Horrible mess of a relationship, don't know what to do
HorribleCloud · 03/02/2012 01:38
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