This is a heartfelt question for those living after betrayal.
Please could people who have not been touched by an affair not contribute - sorry, but you can have no idea whatsoever of how shattering it is and I heartily pray you NEVER become a member of the club nobody wanted to join.
I am especially looking for people who reconciled and how they moved forward, but would love to hear anyone's story. Any blokes out there who have betrayed and would like to explain [what it is like] I would love to hear from you.
So my questions are:
Did you find calm, acceptance, happiness, contentment, peace?
What explanation did you tell yourself to get here?
How do you relate to him?
What story did he tell to explain himself?
How long did this journey take?
Any words of advice you can give?
Basically I am trying to piece together a life now that my innocent assumptions are gone. I don't have the marriage I thought I did, and I don't know him the way I thought I did. We are both in IC and he has been diagnosed as a narcissist with not much inner world, so not only does he resist the shame, he is pretty much unable to (explain) as well.
I am really looking for some elder sisters out there, thanks because I have to heal on my own I think. I hope I get some responses.
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Did you get happy after his affair? How long did it take? How did you do it?
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Abitwobblynow · 21/12/2011 15:25
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