for the sake of DD? Which basically all it is now, I fear. My boyfriend is not my DD's dad but has been in our lives for 7 years (DD 10) He is a good, hardworking man who has done very well in his job and has good points, we get on most of the time but sometimes (seems to be a lot recently) he insults and offends me (not on purpose apparantly) and expects me to accept this without a reaction. When I do react he is dismissive and makes me feel oversensitive and a bit foolish. Which is another question, maybe I am? Please give me your take.
We were Christmas shopping last weekend when we were in M&S he said "Oh joy this brings back memories" I asked "Does it? What of"?
Him "Don't you remember, a couple of years back, you and your inappropriate dress sense love"? I'm a little surprised as I really think my dress sense is fine and he's never told me he had a problem with it before. I asked for specifics but he couldn't remember exactly but mentioned "A little too fleshy"
I am now shocked as none of my clothes are 'fleshy' and above all if we had an argument of this nature I'm sure it would've stuck in my mind (Going down as one of his bad points) I do not appreciate advice of this nature and dress how I please. (Which, strangely, is not fleshy!!)
We carry on shopping but it plays on my mind, I want specifics, what dress etc, he is now fed up that I am irritated (So it's ok for him to offend but I'm not allowed to react) and snaps and says "Oh just give it a rest love" and "Are you still going"? When I get crosser (I really am shocked that he thinks my dress sense inappropriate and fleshy, we're in M&S FFS) and tell him, probably in an emotionally charged voice "You've upset me can't you understand that"? He finally sighs and rolls his eyes.
I feel like it's the last straw. It seems so trivial written down doesn't it? Is it? Am I hard work? Over sensitive?
Since then I have been stewing. He has forgotten and is completely fine. Typical. Things like this are happening more and more frequently. Why?
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lovelydogs · 14/12/2011 23:39
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