Abusive relationships

[Jux]

I am wondering if there is any mileage in having a sticky thread at the top of this topic with basic advice for people who are in abusive relationships. I know there's a list of agencies you can contact, but I was wondering about things like no couple counselling and the like.

Then idea has been inspired by a thread on which someone has posted their experience of couple counselling whilst in an abusive relationship and the effect it had, and thought it would be a good idea if it were easy to find for anyone in that situation.

[noseinbook]

The OP of the EA thread has a large number of useful links, and the thread is fairly active.

[Jux]

I'll shut up then!

[noseinbook]

Jux was quite scared then, as emoticons don't show up on preview!!

[HoudiniHissy]

I'll C&P this into the EA thread actually, but I was recently told this by a WA area coordinator.

Mediation can be refused in abusive situations. 1st session, you go, you tell them that you are being abused, threatened, manipulated and that the process will make you more fearful of him than less. The notes will go to the court, the court will allow you to discontinue.

You HAVE to refuse counselling/mediation in abuse situations, it makes things WORSE, as he will attempt to recruit the counsellor to gang up against you, and to inflict more damage.

[Jux]

Noseinbook, awwwww. I'm only scary in real life!