Hi
I'm a lurker posting for the first time and really need some support today.
To cut a long story short I tried to cut off contact with toxic parents 6 years ago. Father a bully and occasionally violent to me. My mother is very manipulative - if I was hit, or verbally abused by him she would tell me 'you only have yourself to blame'. She would always stick up for him, tell me that he loved me very much, and basically that it was all my fault.
They have never respected my wish to not be be contact - e.g. they have contacted PIL to try and get at me that way. Just after i told them i didn't want further contact they turned up on my doorstep, hammered on the door for ages, were screaming through the letterbox. It was awful.
Anyway, we moved house and they didn't know where me and DH lived for some time and it was a relief. But a few months ago they found out my address - we should be ex-directory but it was printed in the phonebook. There were no visits from them and I was quite hopeful, but Father turned up on my doorstep this morning. I shut it quickly, but he stood on the doorstep for a while, then sat outside in his car for a hour. I nearly threw up. He's gone now but then my mother started calling my landline and I stupidly answered. After listening to her crap for a few mins I really lost it with her and shouted at her that she was a crap mother who never protected me from him and hung up.
I'm sat here shaking now holding 5 week old DD2. I'm terrified he's going to come back, and I'm wondering what they are going to do next. Thanks for letting me vent... feel a bit calmer for just typing this out.
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Toxic parents found out where I live - need some support please!
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northline · 18/11/2011 12:40
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