Hi there. I posted quite recently about dealing with my anxious mother who keeps ringing me to see if I'm ok. Anyway she has just been to visit (along with my dad although they're divorced but that's another story) They didn't stay here but in a nearby guest house which was helpful. It's been well, ok, up to a point. She liked to see the grandchildren, brought them a cake and some toys. She is very overbearing though for example instead of being helpful is critical. For instance I was trying to get ds to put his coat on as he's only 3 and it's quite nippy today, she kept saying "oh he doesn't need it' other things like that. Then when he had a big tantrum coming away from the park it was 'probably because he's too hot in that coat!' (she used to say things like "can't he wait till we go home' when I needed to b'feed him as a newborn when out in town..
Anyway I was cross, also wanted some space from them so just stormed off home with a crying ds to have his nap, told her to have a good journey back as needed some time now. She started going on was I ok, she was concerned about me..'I could call and they'd come and get me' Wtf? I have a lovely dp and he's been nothing but kind to me and them, and I don't know... I have this odd feeling she doesn't trust him or something. (she is a bit funny about men in general )
I just feel so angry and upset with her, it just seems like we are strangers. Any perspective on this would be great
Oh, I remember when my brother got married a few years ago as they danced off to get in the wedding car she went after them not to give kind words but instead to tell them 'it's not all fun you know' something along those lines.
It would have been lovely just to have had a compassionate and understanding mum today saying something like 'you're doing a fab job it's just a stage' something like that. Rather than this kind of dark message about coming to get me. What, and take me 'home'!
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PinkPoncho · 17/11/2011 14:29
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