So, my DH and I have been married ten years and have an 8yr old and 6yr old. When first together sex was frequent and good and in my mind, still is good!
Sorry for detail but important for the sake of this thread - normally happens couple of times a week, usually at bedtime, in bed.
He's always been, not to put to fine a point on it, fairly rampant! He'd be at it all day every day if he had his way and frequently complains that it's all got a bit routine and boring. To be fair, he may have a point but I'm not (and never have been) the spontaneous or risk taking type so if there's any chance of a child interrupting us (eg. when they've just gone to bed or in the morning or when downstairs watching a film on telly) I just can't relax enough to do it. I love him to bits but am starting to feel harassed by his requests for sexy underwear, role play etc etc. It feels to me then like it's yet another chore in my life along with the demands from the kids, housework, mealtimes, job etc. And that's now how I want to view our sex life!
This has come up a few times in the last few years and I try to pep it up again for a while but then my enthusiasm wanes and we're back to 2-3 times a week, in bed, at bedtime again! And then he starts complaining again.......
I suppose really what I'm wondering is, am I being unreasonable? Should I put more effort in and if so, how? Or is he being unrealistic with his requests given that we're both really busy and I'm perpetually knackered?!
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Dotty342kids · 03/11/2011 10:36
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