I can't tell anymore and just wanted a totally neutral perspective. I'll just take an incident this evening as an example of the kind of thing that is really getting me down with dp...
I was made redundant on Tuesday. I hated my job so all is fine there, but I have a meeting tomorrow to discuss my redundancy package. I really wanted o prepare tonight because I am useless at confrontation and wanted to have notes to refer to etc. Dp said he would help as he sees this situation quite often at his work.
So, got my notepad out and we start making notes. Dp is lying on the floor facing away from me watching tv. Some shitty film comes on and he gets totally slack jawed and ignores me. I try to make a joke of it and say something like 'er, hello!' but it's blatantly obvious he isn't interested. I am then pissed off, he offers to help again but I'm so pissed off I say don't bother I don't need any help.
He has now gone to bed in a huff because he says I have had a go at him. He says he did offer to help so what's the problem? My point is he was totally disinterested and unsupportive about something I am really anxious about.
This is really typical behaviour from him and it's making me question the whole relationship. I feel so alone sometimes.
Am I overreacting or is that a fair thing to be pissed off about?
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Stayathomebum · 12/10/2011 22:01
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