I have been a LP for a long time, I have had the odd BF, but before I get shot at for being a brazen hussy... I know it's not an ideal situation, please don't flame me. I'm trying to sort it out..
I met PP1 (Potential partner 1) online several months ago, we have talked daily since, but never really planned to meet up, we just got on really well and seem to agree on almost everything..
I met PP2 through a mutual friend, we were set up because my friend thought we would be a good match... I ended up getting quite drunk that night and ending up going to bed with him.. which was absolutely amazing (it had been a long time) but I didn't think it would go any further than that..
PP2 contacted me after that night and told me that he would like to see me again, and we arranged to meet up the following weekend, and we had a drink and spent the rest of the time that I was there in bed... the sex again was absolutely amazing and I had never been with anyone who could please me so easily..
The whole time I am still talking to PP1 daily.
I continue to see PP2 for the odd naughty weekend when the DC are on overnight stays. PP2 then tells me that he likes me, and has implied that he would marry me.. but I can't get PP1 out of my head, I had never met him, but I talk to him every day and know that he would look after me and make me feel safe.
I decide that I can't let things go any further until I have met PP1 and got him out of my head, we arrange a date and it was lovely.. he brought a single red rose for me, pulled my chair out for me and tucked me in, and was a perfect gentleman..
So now I am a bit confused.. I like them both for different reasons..
I want to find someone to settle down with..
I have bullet-pointed my pros and cons..
PP1
- Lovely gentleman, I could see him treating me the way my dad still treats my mum now
- Romantic
- Wants marriage and children
- Has a good job and lots of ambition, knows what he wants out of life.
- Have only met him the once, but I still know him much more.
- Christian
PP2
- Amazing in bed but likes to always been in control and make me a bit sub, although I prefer not to be.
- Has told me that he doesn't usually date people 'my size' (16)
- I could act out absolutely any fantasy that ever entered my head as he is up for anything
- Always makes sure I am fully satisfied
- Extremely affectionate, cuddle all night long.
- Wants marriage and (maybe) children
- Old fashioned, believes that cooking/cleaning etc is womans work.. and that woman are there 'to please men'
- Agnostic
I have never been with someone who satisfies me as much as PP2, and although I know that PP1 is the sensible choice, and I know it sounds shallow, but after being in a relationship where the sex was really crap, I worry that if I go for 'sensible', that I will be disappointed and unhappy if the sex lacks somewhat..
Currently, sex hasn't even been mentioned with PP1
Both of them I would happily take home to my parents..
I have talked to both of them about my DC, and they have both reacted appropriately, taking an interest but not overkill.
Really I just want to know your thoughts and get a bit of help to put this in perspective.. I know that nobody can make the decision for me..
And I know it seems trivial compared to some other peoples problems, and for that I'm sorry..