The responses to one of my other posts has got me thinking - is it possible or desirable to tolerate and put up with bullying and dominating behaviour from exH "for the sake of the children?"
My ex is outwardly co-operative, friendly and genuine - however, he seems unable to distinguish between criticism and an alternative point of view; if we disagree about an issue affecting BD, he takes on the victim persona and accuses me of undermining him, cutting him out of DDs life and dictating what should happen next.
My solution thus far us to minimise contact with him; emails rather than face to face and brief exchange of pleasantries if we do see each other - no attempt to discuss things which can wait tilnan email.
But, should I be trying to overcome these feelings, and learn how to tolerate him, in order to present a united front for DD? I find it very hard to tolerate him speaking for me (as he's done at teacher meetings etc) and he is socially inept - shares inappropriate info about himself and people he associates with to total strangers - like other parents at open evenings - you know the kind of person I mean; the one you dread sitting next to you on the bus!
How can I learn to put up with him? What sort of training\counselling would help? I could probably put up with the social ineptness if he didn't try to dominate, bully and talk down to me at every opportunity .
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Learning to tolerate a socially inept bully - is it possible?
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NotaDisneyMum · 07/10/2011 15:59
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