Everytime I bring up the word divorce, he goes mad and becomes verbally abusive.
I have been sleeping in a different room for the past 2 years, well on a blow up bed on the floor to be precise.
I can't carry on like this as I am lucky to see 5 hours sleep a night, which in turn has caused me to suffer from mild depression, anxiety attacks etc for which I have been receiving help for.
I have no feelings for him whatsoever, as far as I am concerned he is the childrens father and that is it.
He is quite happy to carry on like this pretending to the outside world that his marriage is fine.
I don't want to spend the rest of my life living like this, so have seen a solicitor to start divorce proceedings. Yet when I said to him I had done this he started shouting calling me every name under the sun, how I was being unfair on the kids.
I have in the past had an affair, this is constantly brought up in rows, the other day he shouted at me in front of the children, calling me a slag and that I would rather sleep with other people instead of him.
He keeps saying that he works hard to provide for us, gives us everything that we want and what more could I want.
My answer to this was well I want someone who doesn't drink every night, someone who doesn't use verbal abuse to get their point across.
He refuses to leave the home saying that everything in here is his, he pays the rent but I pay all the other bills.
I just needed to get this all of my chest.
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insanityrules · 05/09/2011 09:26
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