My back story is around but I was embarrassed when I read it back in the cold light of day so don't want to link it. After some very constructive comments from everyone I decided I needed to sort myself out. To begin with I threw away the alcohol. I found a counsellor and have had my first session. I won't reveal the comments as I don't want to influence anything. I also spoke to my O/H and explained how unhappy I was. I asked if we could try and work it out. He has told me that I have made him miserable for 8yrs (Damn I'm good) but won't explain why. He refuses to go to counselling or do anything else to try and fix this. He says if we have more sex it will make him feel more appreciated. He gave me four days to decide if I wanted him to stay or not. I had no other options. At the end of that time I said go BUT wrote him a letter explaining why I said it, why I was unhappy and that I would still try. He has refused to read it and says he is too angry. I don't know what I have done to make him so miserable and I am now doubting that I even knew him as I thought. I'm beginning to think he didn't love me at all and stayed because it was comfortable. I realise it's very vague but would welcome some thoughts on what I do now other than wait a week until he returns from his latest trip. Thanks.
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BobBanana ·
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