I need some perspective on my situation please, I haven't been able to talk to anyone in RL.
I recently cheated on OH, one night, with a colleague. Have felt unsure about my relationship for a while and haven't really fancied OH for ages. I feel terrible, but what I did doesn't feel very real (I was drunk, maybe why it's hazy?). There are problems in my relationship, OH can behave erratically, has mood swings, I have built up resentment over household/childcare stuff, I think I am passive-aggressive and I find it difficult to talk to him about how I'm feeling. Sexlife is pretty sparse. Ocationally it all blows up and OH has some kind of meltdown, and I reasure him and it is swept under the carpet again. I actually feel like I want to be on my own but the thought of taking away the life that OH really wants to hold on to is too sad, and it would be hard on my own - we have 2 kids. My overiding feeling is that I just go through the motions with my relationship and that I have lost the will to make any effort. I tell him I love him but I don't think I mean it.
And, the colleague is playing games with me. I still have to work with him but he ignores my calls and emails for ages, then I get late'ish night texts about meeting up, being together etc. Asking me to call him, than he doesn't answer. I don't want to be with him in a relationship, I would like to be single though so I could persue it as something casual, but I think I might just be seeking his approval.
Even reading that back it does't seem real. I don't know what I am doing and I don't know what to do for the best. Am really hoping that someone has some advice.
Thank you.
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LittleMissMess · 25/08/2011 14:16
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