I wanted to say i love my wife but for about 5 years our relationship seems to be mostly friendship very rarely sexual its a problem iv been really vocal about in the past but to no avail im not asking for the world but i have a really high sexdrive more due to fustration and lack of physical emotion everything else in our relationship is fantastic it feels like its a chore for her i feel like she doesnt fancy me anymore is there any advice on where to go from here? Ps. Sorry for my grammer i rushed it abit.I wanted to say i love my wife but for about 5 years our relationship seems to be mostly friendship very rarely sexual its a problem iv been really vocal about in the past but to no avail im not asking for the world but i have a really high sexdrive more due to fustration and lack of physical emotion everything else in our relationship is fantastic it feels like its a chore for her i feel like she doesnt fancy me anymore is there any advice on where to go from here? Ps. Sorry for my grammer i rushed it abit.
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Maybe if you didn't want to spliff 4 eva...? 
Seriously, have you talked to her about it? What did she say?
Thanks for the info. So your sex life dwindled after you had your son - basically, for the entire length of your marriage? Ouch :(
Having a small child is incredibly wearing. They make constant, urgent emotional demands as well as all the physical ones such as feeding, play, exercise, education, bathing and dressing. The vast majority of women go off sex for a couple of years, simply because they've no energy left for it - and that's even when they have a partner who really does his share. At least, in that case, they're both too tired for sex
Four/five years is quite a long time to be feeling like that, though. How hands-on are you around the house and baby? The true test of this is: How much time do you spend watching TV, playing a game, dozing and stuff (leisure) compared to her? Is she always 'doing' even when you've switched off?
It's a bit difficult in your situation, because you didn't have the time to form a solid relationship before forming your family. It's possible that you're incompatible in the long run. First, though, I'd look at the obvious which is how the energies are spent in your household.
From the perspective of a mother... You could be married to the most attractive man in the world and if you feel like you are working hard and are not emotionally supported or if your husband doesn't do his share around the house, suddenly he isnt very attractive at all.
Most women will not feel like sex if they are not emotionally attached. If you walk to the kitchen, ask if she would like anything. If you are coming donstairs, bring cups etc downstairs and load the dishwasher, if you are going upstairs, take the laundry up ( you could even sort it into piles 
) Offer to bath your son and put him to bed whilst she relaxes for a bit, then run the a bath.
If you do even one of these a day I can promise you will be having more sex than Stringfellow.
What, just bringing the cups down, Attilla? You're a pushover! (And very tough)
Im all about the housework Garlicbutter
(love the name btw, I had to think for a second, shake my head and say 'no that was dragon not garlic')
Yeah, it managed a couple without repeating though
Are you both at home all day now? The lack of money must be adding to both your stress levels, but it is a great opportunity to really show her how much you care - by just doing stuff without being asked, giving her some proper time off and so forth. If you don't already know when your next contract's starting, obviously you need to work on that - and I'd suggest you take up running or cycling to lift your mood and boost your confidence.
Does she say she loves you? Does it feel like it?
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