Ok so I have finally reached the point where I am ready to leave H. Turning point was a couple of days ago when my counsellor pointed out to me that H was emotionally abusive and that it obvioulsy had been going on for years....
Having said that she also warned me not to do anything in a rush and to think and plan so to protect myself (financially, emotionally etc...). No DV (but I did have an incident where I got scared he would lose it completely. That was a day when I pushed him into a corner where he didn't want to be and leaving would be a similar situation).
So what would be the steps to go through?
In my mind I have
-See sollicitor. I was hoping to go for a separation at first and an agreement on financial ground (Idea being that it would be cheaper) but beginning to realize this might be a bit naive from my part and that i might need a divorce to protect myslef.
- Copy documents (wage slips, bank statements) but how far should I go back?
- Copy of house deeds (with our names on) and morgage certificates
- Have name on car changed (complicated story but atm both cars are in his name)
Anythingelse?
Also what would you advise re letting him know? public place or at home?