My brother is 33, and like me, we both have a genetic problem that results in fertility problems. This was diagnosed in our early teens. Ever since our teens, my brother has been a deeply angry person who can have what can only be described as temper tantrums on a fairly regular basis. Once, on a family holiday when he was 15, we were rowing on a lake. I wasn't doing it "properly", so he screamed and swore. Only six months ago, I approached his cat when it was on his lawn and it ran under the car. He screamed and swore and so nothing has changed.
As a family we have tiptoed around these tantrums. However, the other day, he rang my parents in frustration, screaming down the phone about everyone working at the hospitals were tw*ts, how I was treated much better at the hospital. My mum was very calm throughout and tried to help but it was difficult to get any sense from him, but my Mum's been upset now for the past week.
He has a partner (I can only congratulate her on dealing with him as it must be very difficult) and they've been together for 12 years.
He really resents me (I did well at school and have a relatively good job, although my life is far from perfect, but he sees me as the golden child), and by extension the relationship I have with my parents.
I think he needs help, professionally in some sense, but he's an adult. However, what can we do? If we offer support, he usually rejects it. He's so angry at the world, and it's horrible to watch. We don't want to cut ties with him but it's so difficult to deal with.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Can my brother be helped?
4 replies
CelticSpring · 22/07/2011 12:36
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.