Everyone has a past, I absolutely accept that.
Yesterday DP & I were moving furniture in dd's room and on top of a massive wardrobe was a shoe box full of photos/cards/letters etc..
We opened it together and started looking through the things and there were photos of DP as a younger man with girlfriends etc (quite a few different women tbh :)) The most recent photos were of him and his most recent ex - from about 10 years ago.
Now, the photos do not concern me at all, as I have a box of photos from the past and they have all sorts of people in them. (including my ExH)
The thing is and I'm not too sure whether this bothers me or not but he had kept birthday cards with lovey-dovey sentiments (of course they would be lovey-dovey, they were a couple for years) and also love letters, but from this person only.
I'm not saying at all that he still has feelings for his ex, I know he doesn't, I gave you the above description as a reason for my question really, I suppose what I'm asking is...
Would/Do you keep things from previous relationships after such a long time, even when you're in a completely new relationship and have children together.
I don't keep things like that as they don't really mean anything to me anymore, would you feel "put out" if you came across something like the cards/letters as described above?
I don't think I'm planning to say or do anything about this, I just want to process exactly how I feel about it tbh. And I know if I was upset about it I could tell DP and he would understand.....looking forward to seeing what you think to be honest.
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