I'm a name changing regular as my partner knows my username and frankly this is extremely embarassing. I've been with my partner for a few years now and he has only 'cum' once in all this time despite me trying every trick in the book, various techniques, positions, you name it, it aint happening.
I am starting to hate sex now. I'm feeling woefully inadequate (never had this with any previous partner) and the lengthy sessions just end up with me pushing him away because I've become sore or bored or both.
He claims he doesn't 'need to cum' to enjoy sex, which is fine as neither do I, but to not climax in this amount of time, ever?! I can't help but feel he's now going through the motions because he feels I want sex rather than because WE want sex.
This has all came to a head in a massive row this weekend because, after a few drinks, i thought it would be a good idea to try and seduce him - sexy undies the works - and got told point blank to do one and he wasn't interested leaving me feeling really embarassed and pretty shit about the whole thing, the only explaination offered was a mumbled "it's late i have work in the morning" putting 2 and 2 together and coming up with 12 i can only think everything is now beginning to play on his mind. It is mine.
I have tried talking to him in the past and since the argument but just get told to forget about it, it's not that important and it's over and done with and dealt with. But it's not. I'm feeling really really shit right now :( Can the wise heads of mumsnet offer any help or advice at all please? I just want some intimacy in our relationship again. Failing that a 'wham bam thank you mam' type shag would suffice. Sadly I seem to have neither :(
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Partner either cannot or will not cum - and it's affecting our relationship
namechangedtoavoidembarassment · 12/07/2011 21:24
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