DH's ex gf (he met her in 1998 and last time he saw her was 2004) keeps contacting him and its getting worse.
They were each other's first proper relationship, they were together 6 years before she then moved back to her native country in Asia.
She has always contacted him since I have known him mainly through email, with quite bland messages he ignored.
But about 2 years ago she started to write she wanted to visit the UK again so they should meet and she would come and stay with him.
So DH decided to reply (as she still has his address at the time and we were worried she would just turn up) obviously he made it clear that was inappropiate. She sent increasingly angry and abusive emails to him which he ignored.
So time goes by, we forget she even exists (luckily she never turned up!) then she starts texting him- just messages about missing him which DH ignored and he since changed his number.
Then about 6 weeks he got an email from her at work.
Now the thing is DH only started to work there 2 years ago so there is no way she knew his email from before. He ignored it but we were both worried as to how she tracked his work email down.
The IT department blocked her email as he did not want to be disturbed at work; or by her full stop.
Then yesterday she emailed him again using a different email address- it was along the lines of" I miss you so much, I know you wouldn?t reply but please do I can?t stop thinking of you"
However the really creepy bit was she said "oh I understand why you have ignored me now- congrats by the way!"
DH and I got married only late last year and we are currently expecting a baby (we have dc1 but she is his step daughter). I can only assume she is congratulating him on one of these events of marriage or pregnancy- but how on earth does someone living on the other side of the world know this?
She seems to go to any lengths to keep in touch and keep in his life.
Why is she doing this do you think? What is she trying to gain?
What should we do- we though ignoring her for two years would deter her but it's getting worse.
Help!
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DH ex keep's contacting him... and it's verging on stalker behaviour....
Achange · 05/07/2011 13:42
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