DP is so boring I'm getting to the point where I don't really want much to do with him. He comes home from work at 5pm, has his tea and then goes upto bed about 7pm. In bed he eats whilst playing on his laptop or sometimes he actually goes to sleep about 8pm. We don't talk, if I strike up conversation he just grunts or tries to twist it around to sex all the time. He never goes out, he's been invited out for drinks with blokes from work loads of times, he says he doesn't drink so no point in going but this weekend he was invited to a rugby match with the lads and he said he was going and then pulled out last minute. Instead he goes around car boots with his dad etc. I feel like I'm living with an old man.
A few weekends ago we had a talk and said we'd make the effort for the weekend. so we went out for a meal and then when we came home the idea was to open a bottle of wine, watch a movie and then actually spend some quality time together in bed. So what happened? we got home at 9.30, he said he was going up to get changed, I poured two glasses of wine and he was taking ages so I went up to find him still fully dressed and sprawled out on the bed asleep. He jumped when I went in and said he was just resting his eyes. I said "are you coming down to watch a movie then?" and he was like "yeah in a bit" all the time blatently trying to fall asleep. I said in the end "well I'm going downstairs, I hope you can be arsed to join me before it gets too late" so he starts trying to get me to "come for a cuddle" on the bed etc - basically he wanted sex and then sleep as usual. It didn't happen. He fell asleep, I went downstairs and watched a movie on my own.
He just doesn't put any effort into anything. Like when we were getting ready for the resteraunt I got all dressed up and came downstairs to find him wearing jeans and a cheapo sports hoody. I said "how come you're not getting ready??" and he said "what? well - I am" I said "you're going out like that, seriously?" and he said "what's wrong with it??" ffs so we went out me dressed in a nice dress, pretty jewelry, make-up, new shoes and hair styled and he goes out in scruffy jeans and hoodie that he's had on all day with scruffy trainers, no aftershave or anything.
I sit here most days now thinking there MUST be a better man out there for me?? Or is this it? is this what all men turn out to be like after the novelty wears off?
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DP So Boring and makes zero effort with anything
Smugz · 30/06/2011 13:13
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