My folks live in the north of Scotland, I'm on the South Coast. They were at a reunion down south for the weekend and then went to visit my dsis for a couple of days - she lives an hour and a half away from me. They didn't come to visit me and my 3 dcs.
This is the second time they have done this. I plucked up the courage to confront my dad when it happened last year to ask him if something had happened to make him decide not to visit (I feel uncomfortable with confrontation). He said it was because my dh "made him feel uncomfortable". When I asked what he meant, he couldn't explain properly, just saying that last time they visited - over 4 years ago- the atmosphere changed when DH came home from work (DH didn't behave any differently when they were here to the way he does normally IYSWIM) I truly believe he was making excuses but can't work out why he would do this.
This year, I knew that the reunion was sometime in June and that they planned to visit dsis, and secretly hoped that they were going to pay us a "surprise" visit but they didn't sad.
We visited them earlier this year - as you can imagine I was quite anxious about awkward "atmospheres" between my dh and dad, but we all got on really well (or so I thought!) and had a really nice time with them. And now this.
I've heard nothing from them except for a couple of texts from my mum this week about a sick relative. Should I confront him about this again? Is it wrong of me to think how awful it is to travel 800 miles, visit part of the family but not the other part? I'm really struggling to get my head round this and it's really making me quite angry and upset the more I think about it.
Sorry this is so long - hope it makes sense!
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Parents - why have they done this again?
kando · 29/06/2011 22:45
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