How much would you put up with?

[babyplus4]

Okay I have been seeing my man for three years on and off... for the past year we have been on and off and I have told him I want commitment. I have my own house and have two children of my own one we share and is 2 years old. I have recently been away just myself and parents and children and left him and his son at home. He text me while away to say how silly he has been and how he is going to make an effort etc and make more time for me and the family. The thing is dont you think after such a long time of being together we should spend nights, evening together as the only time we get is a few hours while the kids are at school. He is doing his council house up and only yesterday bought some new kitchen doors so to me that means he has no intention of making me a decent woman lol.

He is good with our daughter and he sleeps her twice a week. he does gardening and odes help while the children are at school doing little jobs but when i do need him at weekends and in an eveing re bedtime routine he is at home every night with his son.

To me something is not quite right do you agree. I ahve told him straight I want to settle down as life far too short to waste time. Part of me says I should move on and he says he will not change until his son is 16 which is 5 years lol..

opinions please. Thanks

[SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots]

What is the relevance of his son being 16?

[buzzsore]

Well, you've told him you want more and he's told you he won't change things until his son is 16. I suggest you believe him.

The question is, are you willing to wait? Do you believe he will commit then or do you think he'll weasel out?

If life's too short, then don't wait for him.

[WhoAteMySnickers]

Be honest with yourself. He comes and goes when it suits him. He's not really involved with you as a family, day to day.

Can you accept the way things are, can you see yourself carrying on like this for the next 4 years?