I, alledgedly, have spoilt - no RUINED, our kids..it is entirely MY fault that DD1 doesnt listen to a word 'D'H says and he has trouble getting her to do ANYTHING without her crying, I undermine him all the time..
--My take on this is; she doesnt listen to anyone much, she is stubborn and determined and her head is very busy with princesses and fairies. The reason HE finds it difficult is because he has never spent enough time with her. Ive raised her by myself (although we have been living as a 'family')- he has lived along side her basically and has been absent (AWOL) alot. As soon as interaction gets tricky or discipline is needed he screeches for me to intervene...and then starts berating me for spoiling her yadaa yadaa yadaa...so how is she suppossed to have any respect for him? As I have done it all myself, how very dare he blame HIS failure to have a relationship with his daughter on ME?! AND YES I probably DO undermine him..because his attitude stinks!! quite often I agree with my DDs rationalisation (at 6yo mind!!!) over his lily-livered patheticness. When he does decided to discipline her, he embarks on a long rambling explanation that goes on and on and on and on.....its boring, the point is lost and I have stopped listening after 30 seconds let alone a 6 yo.
he said IN FRONT OF HER today that 'he doesnt like dealing with this child' and in the next breath thta he thinks he will take dd2 with him when he moves out!!!! AaaaAAAARgghhh...he makes me sick
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