Dh and I are expecting our first baby at the end of September. It will be the first gc for both sets of parents. My parents live 10 mins away, but pil live about 3 hrs drive away, and sil lives abroad.
We're spending xmas with my dps this year. Apart from his paternity leave (during which sil will have to work), it'll be the first stretch of leave dh has after the baby is born. Dh therefore asked my dm if he could invite mil, pil and sil to spend xmas with us. It'll be the first chance his side of the family have to spend a few days all together with our dc.
My dm said she'd be delighted to have them as well but mil has told dh that she doesn't fancy the drive, so they're going to spend xmas at home. Dh was disappointed, but didn't say anything as he didn't want to upset mil. Sil has since (accidentally) mentioned that "it's a shame that they can't come here for xmas because pil can't bring their dog here with them". Df and I are both allergic to dogs, so neither of us can put him up.
Dh is upset that they're not coming but he doesn't tend to question his mother's decisions. I can't think of any way I can help. Mostly, I am selfishly thinking it'll be nice to have a quiet xmas with my just my side of the family. I just can't seem to get rid of this mild feeling of annoyance that pil would apparently rather spend time with their dog than getting to know their gc.
Can anyone see another way of looking at this? Do gps not normally want to spend time with their gc? I know a baby isn't going to be a barrel of laughs and entertainment at 3 months but I thought thay might like to spend a few days with their ds and dgc. Should I just be glad to have an xmas free of in-laws?
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Why wouldn't pil want to spend xmas with their new (&only) gc?
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bigbutton · 07/06/2011 20:41
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